tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-13275731426233218992010-04-11T20:51:37.475-07:00The Blushing Ladies Journal - Romance and Relationship Advice from Erotic Romance AuthorsRomance and relationship advice from erotic romance authors.The Blushing Ladieshttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16013897750092631430noreply@blogger.comBlogger95125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1327573142623321899.post-87487451959479249212008-04-06T13:08:00.000-07:002008-04-06T13:26:13.459-07:00Liaison With My Erotic Muse by P.F. Kozak<em>This article by P.F. Kozak is a perfect read for any erotic romance writer, whether new or old!<br />Jolie du Pre<br /></em><br /><br /><br /><br /><br /><span style="font-size:130%;"><strong>Liaison With My Erotic Muse<br /></strong></span><br /><br /><a href="http://www.glitter-graphics.com/"><img height="298" src="http://dl4.glitter-graphics.net/pub/459/459544qwovl1elqz.jpg" width="264" border="0" /></a><br /><a href="http://www.glitter-works.org/" target="_blank">glitter-graphics.com</a><br /><br /><br /><strong>Author: <a title="P. F. Kozak" href="http://www.articlesbase.com/authors/p.-f.-kozak/8827.htm">P. F. Kozak</a></strong><br /><br /><br /><p>Writing erotic romance is certainly a sexual liaison with my muse. Anticipation starts the juices flowing, and then imagination takes over. What is hotter than the expectation of tingles and whispers, caresses and sighs, and finally, skin against skin. The mind, after all, is the most potent erogenous zone. Much like spending a hot night with a lover, foreplay begins while walking up the stairs, or in this case, turning on the computer! </p><br /><p>Before computers, writers stared at a blank page in a typewriter. Now, it is a white screen on a monitor waiting to be filled. My muse helps me find the sensual space in my imagination, from which sexy stories appear. Sometimes when I need him, my muse has to be enticed to come out and play. I tease him, pursuing him until he can no longer resist.</p><br /><p>My muse is certainly masculine, a commanding presence when he emerges. To coax him out of the private sanctum where he lives, I bait him. He loves music, especially the blues. Oh baby, yes, the blues will lure him out every time. He absolutely cannot resist Etta James. </p><br /><p>Once I have his attention, I take a hot bath and soak. That is when we commune. He whispers to me as I drift, telling me what he wants to do. Often, he shows me what he wants, the erotic pictures vivid in my mind. When finally I sit down at the keyboard, the words and images flow from my mind into my fingers.</p><br /><p>Holding onto the space of erotic thought can be a challenge. It is a delicate altered state of consciousness, a meditative zone where nothing exists except the story. The characters are on stage, and I have to be a rapt audience. There is no room for laundry waiting in the basket, the grocery list sitting on the table or vacuuming the cat litter tracked onto the rug. Everything, and I do mean everything, has to take a back seat to the presence of the muse. When his virility fills my heart and soul, I have to pay attention. </p><br /><p>To sustain my concentration and encourage my muse to continue his flirtatious whispers, I often look at pictures of beautiful men. I trace the curves of their muscles with my eyes, allowing their potency to wash though me. The impressions translate easily into scenes, where I play voyeur to a gorgeous hunk of man making love. Watching him in my mind's eye, my own fire burns brighter. The tactile sense of him, how he smells, the sweat on his skin, the hard line of his body, the softness of his hair—he overwhelms my senses. </p><br /><p>Making love on the written page is as intimate and personal as loving on a bed (or any other surface to your liking). The endorphins kick in and identification with the characters is spontaneous. Whatever is happening on the page is also happening in my mind, an alternate reality for the duration of the session. My muse strokes me until I am sated. Then, he allows me to rest until our next liaison. With a tender kiss, he promises the next time will be even better.</p><br /><br /><br /><p>Article Source: <a title="Liaison With My Erotic Muse" href="http://www.articlesbase.com/writing-articles/liaison-with-my-erotic-muse-54011.html">http://www.articlesbase.com/writing-articles/liaison-with-my-erotic-muse-54011.html</a></p><br /><br /><strong>About the Author:</strong><br /><br />P.F. Kozak is the author of the <a href="http://www.pfkozak.com/">erotic romance novels Passion, and Sins and Secrets.</a> Visit her Web site to learn more, <a href="http://www.pfkozak.com/" target="_blank">http://www.pfkozak.com/</a><div class="blogger-post-footer"><img width='1' height='1' src='https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/tracker/1327573142623321899-8748745195947924921?l=blushingladies.naughtyblog.net%2Findex.html' alt='' /></div>GLBT Promojolie@joliedupre.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1327573142623321899.post-83553564212383236702008-03-24T14:30:00.000-07:002008-03-24T14:33:31.961-07:00Free How-To eBooksThe folks at <a href="http://www.sextoylisting.com/" target="_blank">Sex Toy Listing</a> asked us to tell you about their <a href=http://www.sextoylisting.com/content/news/free-adult-ebook-giveaway.html target=_blank>free ebook giveaway</a>:<br /><p></p><blockquote><p> During our launch period we are giving away two dazzling ebooks. 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So get your free copy now!</blockquote><div class="blogger-post-footer"><img width='1' height='1' src='https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/tracker/1327573142623321899-8355356421238323670?l=blushingladies.naughtyblog.net%2Findex.html' alt='' /></div>Gracie Passettehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08004785943659251570Gracie.Passette@gmail.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1327573142623321899.post-24117550274145842382008-03-23T21:25:00.000-07:002008-03-23T21:53:38.978-07:00The Romantic Strip Tease<a href="http://www.glitter-graphics.com/"><img height="398" src="http://dl.glitter-graphics.net/pub/614/614921wf1jgnw9x0.jpg" width="299" border="0" /></a><br /><a href="http://www.glitter-works.org/" target="_blank">glitter-graphics.com</a><br /><br /><br /><br /><span style="font-family:arial;"><strong>The Romantic StripTease!</strong> </span><br /><br /><span style="font-family:arial;"></span><br /><br /><span style="font-family:arial;">Have you ever fantasized about being a stripper? Have you ever thought it would be cool to do a striptease for your lover? Well, guess what? You're not alone! </span><br /><br /><br /><span style="font-family:arial;">Truth be told, many women have this same fantasy. Many more have even "busted a move" for their lover. Sound like fun? It sure is! Plus, the Romantic Striptease is an awesome way to show your lover just how sexy you're feeling. And take it from me, he will agree with you 100%. </span><br /><br /><br /><span style="font-family:arial;">Of course anytime you remove your own clothes in front of your lover there's sure to be "fireworks". But lets do something special. Let's treat your lover. Let's plan an actual Romantic Striptease. </span><br /><br /><br /><span style="font-family:arial;">So, what's needed to make the Romantic Striptease a success? Let's have a look. </span><br /><br /><br /><span style="font-family:arial;">First and foremost, as mentioned in my book "the Romantic Tips Guide" you do not have to be a professional dancer to do this. It's all about having fun and spending some quality time with each other! </span><br /><br /><br /><span style="font-family:arial;">Next, is music selection. Keep in mind you and your partners taste. The music you choose needs to be a bit on the slow side. Not too slow and draggy, but slow enough so you will be able to take your time removing your clothes one piece at a time and really Tease. </span><br /><br /><br /><span style="font-family:arial;">Speaking of clothing, you'll have to plan what to wear. And, you won't need to go shopping either. Well...not unless you want to. ;-) It is best to start off fully dressed. After all it is called a "Strip TEASE". Removing layers is much more fun, and exciting. A sexy dress, or blouse and skirt, choose an outfit that always turns your partner on. You know, the one where he just can't keep his hands off you. Then for underneath that, choose a couple more things. A pretty camisole, over a sexy bra. On the bottom put a pair of sexy skimpy panties over a pair of thongs. Eventually you'll be removing it all, one piece at a time. Remember, anything that drive's your sweetie wild, and whatever makes you feel sexy and desirable is in order here. You can pretty much choose whatever's in your closet for the outer layer. A good, "naughty" choice is always the schoolgirl look, or you could go for the button-down business look. A tie would later make a great prop. Just think about looping it behind his head to pull him into your breasts. </span><br /><br /><br /><span style="font-family:arial;">Then accessorize. This includes anything like glasses, hats, ties, as well as the all-important thigh highs, (or garter belt and stockings) and stiletto heels. Just make sure you can actually move around and dance in those stilettos. If you don't have any in your closet, borrow a pair from a friend. Also long necklaces look amazing when you're down to the bare essentials, plus long gloves and feather boas are great accessories too. </span><br /><br /><br /><span style="font-family:arial;">Place a chair some where in your bedroom where you will have easy access to move all around it. Of course it's for your sweetie to sit on and watch as you dazzle him with your StripTease. Also, chill some of your lover's favorite beverage. Wine or champagne would be great. You could have some fresh fruit like strawberries or grapes to feed your lover as you dance up a storm. Just remember to take it slow and easy. </span><br /><br /><br /><span style="font-family:arial;">When the time comes to do your Romantic StripTease remove one piece of clothing at a time, making sure to linger on each piece. Give it a try, I promise you and your lover will have great fun. Oh yeah and great sex as well! </span><br /><br /><br /><span style="font-family:arial;">Best Of Luck!</span><br /><br /><span style="font-family:arial;">Marie Clare</span><br /><br /><br /><span style="font-family:arial;font-size:85%;">About the Author:</span><br /><span style="font-family:arial;font-size:85%;"></span><br /><span style="font-family:arial;font-size:85%;">Marie Clare specializes in writing about Dating Relationships and Romance. Check out her lastest Best Selling eBook "the Ultimate Online Dating Handbook" plus reviews of the Best Online Dating Sites FREE Articles Tips and Advice at lifematesnow.com.</span><br /><span style="font-family:Arial;font-size:85%;"></span><br /><span style="font-family:Arial;font-size:85%;">Article provided by <a href="http://www.articleworld.net/">ArticleWorld.net</a>.</span><div class="blogger-post-footer"><img width='1' height='1' src='https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/tracker/1327573142623321899-2411755027414584238?l=blushingladies.naughtyblog.net%2Findex.html' alt='' /></div>GLBT Promojolie@joliedupre.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1327573142623321899.post-84410918335595580262008-03-21T09:41:00.000-07:002008-03-21T09:42:09.925-07:00Sapphic Planet Chat at Literary Nymphs<a href="http://2.bp.blogspot.com/_Btfw9VMXBWU/R-PhqzOlxAI/AAAAAAAAAJk/p_Irb-WXIeo/s1600-h/chatbannermarchM.jpg"><img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5180232121828361218" style="DISPLAY: block; MARGIN: 0px auto 10px; CURSOR: hand; TEXT-ALIGN: center" alt="" src="http://2.bp.blogspot.com/_Btfw9VMXBWU/R-PhqzOlxAI/AAAAAAAAAJk/p_Irb-WXIeo/s400/chatbannermarchM.jpg" border="0" /></a><br /><div><a href="http://3.bp.blogspot.com/_Btfw9VMXBWU/R-PheDOlw_I/AAAAAAAAAJc/7El74QvVR60/s1600-h/chatbannermarchM.jpg"></a><span style="font-family:arial;"><strong>Join <a href="http://groups.yahoo.com/group/LiteraryNymphsChat/">Literary Nymphs </a>for an ALL DAY chat with some of the top authors in lesbian fiction on Saturday, March 22!<br /></strong><br />Chat with:<br /><br />Beth Wylde<br />Lara Zielinsky<br />Roxy Katt<br />Ann Cory<br />Cassidy Ryan<br />Jean Roberta<br />Margaret Leigh<br />Stephanie Rose<br />Cheryl Dragon<br />Dylynn DeSaint<br />Adrianne Brennan<br />Catherine Lundoff<br />Jodi Payne<br />Jolie du Pre<br /><br /><br /></span><span style="font-family:arial;">Sapphic Planet chat at <a href="http://groups.yahoo.com/group/LiteraryNymphsChat/">Literary Nymphs</a>. Sapphic Planet is a group of authors who write lesbian fiction.<br /><br /></span><div></div></div><div class="blogger-post-footer"><img width='1' height='1' src='https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/tracker/1327573142623321899-8441091833559558026?l=blushingladies.naughtyblog.net%2Findex.html' alt='' /></div>GLBT Promojolie@joliedupre.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1327573142623321899.post-10964341750546129042008-03-14T18:43:00.000-07:002008-03-14T19:30:09.387-07:00High-Five Friday<a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="http://blushingladies.naughtyblog.net/uploaded_images/high-five-fridays-743285.png"><img style="margin: 0px auto 10px; display: block; text-align: center; cursor: pointer;" src="http://blushingladies.naughtyblog.net/uploaded_images/high-five-fridays-743283.png" alt="" border="0" /></a><br /><br /><span style="font-weight: bold;">1)</span> A <a href="http://www.latimes.com/features/books/la-et-book8mar08,0,4787632.story" target="_blank">review of Brett Kahr's <span style="font-style: italic;">Who's Been Sleeping in Your Head?</span></a>:<br /><blockquote>Inspired by the psychological insights of Sigmund Freud, the methodological rigor of Alfred Kinsey and the writings of Nancy Friday on female sexuality, Kahr launched a research project to "answer some basic questions," chief among them, "Do our fantasies represent just a bit of private fun, or do they have more profound implications for how we lead our lives?"</blockquote><span style="font-weight: bold;">2)</span> <a href="http://www.smh.com.au/news/culture/diy-erotica/2008/03/13/1205126082522.html" target="_blank">DIY Erotica</a> at <span style="font-style: italic;">The Sydney Morning Herald</span>.<br /><br /><span style="font-weight: bold;">3)</span> The <a href="http://www.planetout.com/news/election/article.html?2008/03/14/5" target="_blank">finalists for the 20th annual Lambda Literary Awards (for the best in LGBT literature)</a> have been named ~ and yes, that includes erotica!<br /><br /><span style="font-weight: bold;">4)</span> <a href="http://fetishkitten.wordpress.com/2008/03/09/new-photoset-and-erotic-story/" target="_blank">Step This Way Please</a>, an erotic story of vibe-play by janiexx (with a few photos of Fetish Kitten too!)<br /><br /><span style="font-weight: bold;">5)</span> <a href="http://www.sex-kitten.net/articles/2453978141628/Neighborly_Hospitality.html" target="_blank">Neighborly Hospitality</a>, by AfroerotiK's Scottie Lowe... Yummy!<br /><br /><a href="http://high-five-fridays.blogspot.com/" target="_blank">Find out how to give your High-Five Fridays here!</a> <p>The purpose of this meme is to give high-fives to 5 people, posts, blogs and/or websites you've admired during the week. I will link to everyone who participates and leaves a link to their 5 high-fives on Friday. Trackbacks, pings, linky widgets, comment links accepted!</p><p>Visiting fellow High-Fivers is encouraged! If you participate, leave the link to your High-Fives in others comments (please note if NWS). </p> <a rel="tag" href="http://technorati.com/tag/high-five+fridays">Find more High-Five Friday folks here!</a><br /><br /><script type="text/javascript" src="http://www.blenza.com/linkies/autolink.php?owner=SlipofaGirl&postid=21/MAR1408BL5"></script><div class="blogger-post-footer"><img width='1' height='1' src='https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/tracker/1327573142623321899-1096434175054612904?l=blushingladies.naughtyblog.net%2Findex.html' alt='' /></div>Gracie Passettehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08004785943659251570Gracie.Passette@gmail.com5tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1327573142623321899.post-17543822028844511212008-03-02T13:55:00.000-08:002008-03-02T14:18:52.541-08:00One for the Guys - DRESS TO IMPRESS<a href="http://www.glitter-graphics.com/"><img height="400" src="http://dl10.glitter-graphics.net/pub/679/679440m6rcwp0shv.jpg" width="298" border="0" /></a><br /><a href="http://www.glitter-works.org/" target="_blank">glitter-graphics.com</a><br /><br /><br /><span style="font-family:arial;font-size:85%;">Guys, here's a great article for you! Marisa Pellegrino has some solid advice on dressing to impress females.</span><br /><strong><span style="font-size:85%;"></span></strong><br /><span style="font-family:arial;"><strong>Dress To Impress </strong></span><br /><p><span style="font-family:arial;">Have you ever wondered why that girl from the bar never called you back? The conversation came easy, the drinks were flowing, you could feel the chemistry, and you were dressed to kill…or were you?</span></p><p><span style="font-family:arial;">Your mother always told you that you only get one chance to make a first impression and first impressions can make or break you. Women look at every last detail, from your tasseled shoes to the amount of goop you have in your hair. Be honest guys, women aren’t the only ones who try on five different outfits before deciding what to wear for a night out on the town. And it is perfectly normal. But how do you know which outfit is the right one to impress the girl on your first date?</span></p><p><span style="font-family:arial;">Let me take you through it step by step. Clothes aren’t the only thing a woman looks at when you’re dressing to impress; it’s the whole package. Fortunately or not, the outside is what she sees first. What you see is sometimes what you get. So what do you wear?</span></p><p><span style="font-family:arial;"><em>Out with the Old</em></span></p><p><span style="font-family:arial;">Rule number one is: don’t under dress. Guys have a tendency to pull on a pair of pants and the first shirt they find and head out the door. You have to look put-together, like some sort of effort was made for her. So take those ratty, old tennis shoes and toss ‘em! Take your t-shirts with big, loud prints and forget about them! And yes, women think carpenters are sexy but that doesn’t give you the green light to wear your paint-stained jeans. The solution is simple. Ask a friend (male or female) over the day of your big date. Not only will they help calm your nerves but they’ll also give you their honest opinion on your chosen outfit. Second, an iron can also be a man’s best friend. You’d be surprised what a little pressing can do to change your look. Finally, don’t rush! There’s nothing wrong with taking an extra half hour to prepare. If you take the time to get ready, your date will take the time to notice.</span></p><p><span style="font-family:arial;"><em>In with the New</em></span></p><p><span style="font-family:arial;">So while the first rule might seem simple enough, some guys might take it too far, which brings us to rule number two: don’t overdress. We don’t expect you to know all the latest fashion trends of the day and we don’t expect you to follow them either. This second rule doesn’t only deal with being a label whore but also with men going overboard; that is to say those men don’t know when enough is enough. While some guys take a shirt, smell it and decide whether or not it is clean, others think their shirt has to say Hugo Boss, Armani, or Ralph Lauren to look good. So let’s make your sweater selection. Stay away from Grandma’s knitted birthday gift and nipple shirts. The former screams little kid while the latter leaves nothing to the imagination. The tight shirt may not be an option if you’re not comfortable enough with your body, but if you are physically fit, why not let the woman imagine what’s under there to maintain an element of mystery. You can’t go wrong with a button shirt, leaving the first couple of buttons at the top undone. It’s casual, comfortable, and classic.</span></p><p><span style="font-family:arial;"><em>A Dab Will Do You</em></span></p><p><span style="font-family:arial;">Do you remember the last time you were walking down the street and almost got whiplash because someone passed by you with an overwhelming smell? Our sense of smell is one of our most powerful senses, which leads us to rule number three: always remember to smell good. Some smells take us back to childhood and others remind us of something very specific. The same applies to your cologne. But why is cologne used in the first place? Its purpose is twofold: it becomes your “signature” and the sense of smell is heightened when things start getting hot and heavy. Again, less is more. No need to drown yourself with the stuff, keep in mind that when it comes to cologne, a little goes a long way. The best places to apply your signature are the inside of your wrists, your neck, and even your chest.</span></p><p><span style="font-family:arial;"><em>Attention to Detail</em></span></p><p><span style="font-family:arial;">Sometimes it’s the little things that make a difference and rule number four reminds you to pay attention to detail. We all know women have an eye for the minute and the slightest thing can turn us off. So the solution is simple boys, don’t overlook the small stuff. Just like women like carpenters, some women also think scruffy is sexy, but on your first date, go with the clean shaven look to be safe. And not only are you going to brush your teeth, you’re also going to break out the dental floss for this one just to be extra safe. Make sure your hair is neat and doesn’t hold an entire bottle of product in it. Remember to clean those nails. You may look like a man’s man with dirty nails, but it’s a turn off for women. Finally, keep the accessories to a minimum. You can wear your watch and necklace or a ring but that’s it. If you’re wearing more jewelry than your date then we could have a problem!</span></p><p><span style="font-family:arial;">Of course, not all women are the same but most will agree that less is more when making a good first impression. So remember the four simple rules: don’t dress like you’re going to watch the game at a buddy’s house or like you’re about to walk down the runway; smell great and put in the effort to care of the details. You’re sure to have plenty of second, third, and fourth dates!</span></p><span style="font-family:arial;"><p><br /><span style="font-size:85%;">Marisa Pellegrino is freelance journalist and a writer for a Montreal radio show called Passion, a program about dating, relationships, and sex. She is also the writer/webmaster for <a href="http://www.dating-idea.com/"><em>Dating Ideas</em></a></span><span style="font-size:85%;"> a website with advice about dating and relationships.<br /></span></p><p><span style="font-size:85%;">Article provided by <a href="http://www.articleworld.net/">ArticleWorld.net</a>.</p></span></span><p><span style="font-family:arial;"></p></span><br /><br /><br /></span><div class="blogger-post-footer"><img width='1' height='1' src='https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/tracker/1327573142623321899-1754382202884451121?l=blushingladies.naughtyblog.net%2Findex.html' alt='' /></div>GLBT Promojolie@joliedupre.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1327573142623321899.post-2215985294968199242008-02-29T07:36:00.000-08:002008-02-29T07:38:15.847-08:00Lesbian Erotica at Air Atta Ca Talk radio<a href="http://www.blogtalkradio.com/AirAttaCaTalk"><img id="BTRButton" alt="Listen to Air Atta Ca Talk on internet talk radio" src="http://www.blogtalkradio.com/img/180x60_wht.gif" border="0" /></a><br /><br /><span style="font-family:arial;">GRAB YOUR LOVER AND GET COZY WITH JOLIE DU PRE AS SHE READS SOME OF HER LESBIAN EROTICA AT SUNNY'S AIR ATTA CA TALK RADIO <strong>TONIGHT AT MIDNIGHT</strong>. Click on the image to get there!<br /></span><div class="blogger-post-footer"><img width='1' height='1' src='https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/tracker/1327573142623321899-221598529496819924?l=blushingladies.naughtyblog.net%2Findex.html' alt='' /></div>GLBT Promojolie@joliedupre.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1327573142623321899.post-41413265876099730332008-02-16T19:48:00.000-08:002008-02-16T20:09:01.504-08:00Just BecauseThis is from <a href="http://www.askut.com/index.php">Ask Uncle Terry</a> (re-posted with permission of the author and the website owner):<br /><br /><em><blockquote><em>I was wondering how many do this: Over the last few years, I have started<br />trying to give my girl just a little something every now and then, it can be a<br />card or a rose or anything, usually when things are not going all that well, or<br />when she is having an extra bad week. She really eats that up, and I score super<br />points too!!! Anyone here do this?</em></blockquote></em><br /><br />The fact of the matter is many guys forget to pay attention to things like their girlfriends or wives moods and when they stop paying attention to these things, sexual desire often falls to the wayside. If women don't feel like they are being taken care of emotionally then they feel that intimacy is lacking and their desire decreases for sexual activities. Of course, this doesn't apply to all women - but to a large percentage it does.<br /><br />Women need to know that when their guy is out about doing his daily things - working, shopping, going to the gym - she is still on his mind, even if not at the forefront. Giving little gifts, love notes, ordering out for dinner on those days when neither of you can handle the kitchen - those little things aren't so little. They mean a lot and they add up. Short on cash? Give her a back rub and expect absolutely nothing in return. Do that one thing that she's been putting off like organizing the junk drawer when she's out grocery shopping. Arrange for the kids to spend the night at friend's or family's houses so she can have a quiet night of watching movies or whatever she likes to do when she has child-free time.<br /><br />These little things that mean a lot usually require very little on your part - a little thought and a little insight as to what means something to her. The rewards are huge - she'll feel great about you and you're quite likely to get some postive attention in return.<br /><br />** Ladies - don't forget that this works the other way around, too. Guys might not be looking for love letters and flowers but an undisturbed Saturday afternoon of tinkering with the car or an evening of fantasy baseball with the guys certainly can't hurt!<br /><br /><span style="font-size:85%;">Posted by Autumn of <a href="http://www.inkyblueallusions.net/personal.html">Inky Blue Allusions</a>.</span><div class="blogger-post-footer"><img width='1' height='1' src='https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/tracker/1327573142623321899-4141326587609973033?l=blushingladies.naughtyblog.net%2Findex.html' alt='' /></div>Autumn Seavehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16965923657797757706noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1327573142623321899.post-80879266210873560712008-02-09T10:14:00.000-08:002008-02-09T11:02:34.818-08:00(Belated) High-Fives<a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="http://blushingladies.naughtyblog.net/uploaded_images/high-five-fridays-743285.png"><img style="margin: 0px auto 10px; display: block; text-align: center; cursor: pointer;" src="http://blushingladies.naughtyblog.net/uploaded_images/high-five-fridays-743283.png" alt="" border="0" /></a><br /><br />You won't mind that they're late *wink*<br /><br /><span style="font-weight: bold;">#1</span> Dirty Little Girl has brought the <a href="http://dirtylittlemind.blogspot.com/2008/01/washington-dc-series-44-climax.html" target="_blank">Washington DC series to its climax</a>.<br /><br /><span style="font-weight: bold;">#2</span> The Provocateur <a href="http://theprovocateur.wordpress.com/2008/02/04/delicate-i-am-in-love/" target="_blank">ponders the intersections of love & lust</a>.<br /><br /><span style="font-weight: bold;">#3</span> Tara Alton has some <a href="http://www.taraalton.com/flashers.html" target="_blank">fun & hot flashers</a> ~ <span style="font-style: italic;">Too Skinny</span> is my favorite.<br /><br /><span style="font-weight: bold;">#4</span> Secondhand Rose's story, <a href="http://callsecondhandrose.blogspot.com/2008/02/clif-lydia-drop-over-edge.html" target="_blank"><span style="font-style: italic;">Clif & Lydia Drop Over The Edge</span></a>, reminds me that BDSM themes can be light hearted and fun too.<br /><br /><span style="font-weight: bold;">#5</span> Also worth noting is Secondhand Rose's post on <a href="http://callsecondhandrose.blogspot.com/2008/02/whenever-i-write-story.html" target="_blank">the arousal of erotica authors while creating written works</a>.<br /><br /><a href="http://high-five-fridays.blogspot.com/" target="_blank">Find out how to give your High-Five Fridays here!</a> <p>The purpose of this meme is to give high-fives to 5 people, posts, blogs and/or websites you've admired during the week. I will link to everyone who participates and leaves a link to their 5 high-fives on Friday. Trackbacks, pings, linky widgets, comment links accepted!</p><p>Visiting fellow High-Fivers is encouraged! If you participate, leave the link to your High-Fives in others comments (please note if NWS). </p> <a rel="tag" href="http://technorati.com/tag/high-five+fridays">Find more High-Five Friday folks here!</a><br /><br /><script type="text/javascript" src="http://www.blenza.com/linkies/autolink.php?owner=SlipofaGirl&postid=21/MAR0908BL5"></script><div class="blogger-post-footer"><img width='1' height='1' src='https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/tracker/1327573142623321899-8087926621087356071?l=blushingladies.naughtyblog.net%2Findex.html' alt='' /></div>Gracie Passettehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08004785943659251570Gracie.Passette@gmail.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1327573142623321899.post-55940790787246171752008-02-03T19:25:00.000-08:002008-02-03T19:40:20.358-08:00Card or Love Letter - Which Should You Give?<a href="http://blushingladies.naughtyblog.net/uploaded_images/candy-796622.gif"><img style="DISPLAY: block; MARGIN: 0px auto 10px; CURSOR: hand; TEXT-ALIGN: center" alt="" src="http://blushingladies.naughtyblog.net/uploaded_images/candy-796619.gif" border="0" /></a><br /><div><span style="font-family:arial;"></span> </div><div><span style="font-family:Arial;font-size:85%;"><em>Valentine's Day is February 14. Here is a great article I found, by L.A. Hunter, on writing a love letter! Enjoy!</em></span></div><div><span style="font-family:arial;font-size:85%;"></span> </div><div><span style="font-family:arial;"></span> </div><div><span style="font-family:arial;">Think about how long it takes you to go to the store and pick the right card for your love. In the same amount of time, you can write a spectacular love letter. It's a very unique gift and it has a big impact on the emotions. Below are a few pointers to help you write a great one. </span></div><br /><div><span style="font-family:arial;"></span></div><br /><div><span style="font-family:arial;">The biggest mistake you can make when writing a love letter is not being sincere. A love letter is something you can't buy, and because of that it means so much more. For example, if you don't like your love's eyes, don't comment on them in the letter. Write about what you do like or what you want to do together. Another mistake would be negativity in the letter. Always think positive and always write about the good. Here's an example, "I'm sorry for my actions, but you just make me angry sometimes." A better way, "I'm sorry for my actions and I cherish you very much." </span></div><span style="font-family:arial;"><br /><div><br />When you're writing a love letter, it always helps to use whimsical words to enhance the uniqueness and feeling of the letter. If you're like me, you don't normally use these kinds of words everyday. So how do you write a spectacular love letter then? A thesaurus is a valuable tool which can help you create a passionate love letter you can be proud of. If you're not familiar with this, it's like a dictionary, but instead of giving the meaning of the word, it gives synonyms and antonyms. So if you want to write, "I love spending time with you," look up love and pick a word that's appealing to you and switch it. The new sentence is, "I treasure our time together." </div><br /><div><br />Here are some key points to remember when writing your love letter. Always date it. Most people keep their love letters, so when they're reminiscing they'll be delighted to know the date. If you don't like this idea, instead of writing it at the top as usual, write it small on the bottom corner or on the back. And always write what you feel comfortable with, don't force yourself to write about things you're not. If you don't want to write about your love's physical appearance, write about things you want to do or how you feel when you're with or not with your love. </div><br /><div><br />Even more ideas for your letters. Spray their favorite fragrance on the letter. Or better yet, use lavender, it has long been perceived as an aphrodisiac by both men and women. Experiment with different color and textured papers. Sometimes mail the letter and other times leave it for them to find, maybe surrounded by rose petals. For more interest, add sketches such as, little hearts, flowers, or dot your 'I's with hearts. Put a few silk rose petals in the envelope when done. The envelope should give the feel of a love letter. If you are not using fancy paper, draw little heart on the envelope or address it to "My Love __________." </div><br /><div><br /><span style="font-size:85%;">Romance expert and author L.A. Hunter has created two web sites to help you with all your romantic needs. </span></span></div><a href="http://www.romantic-secrets.com/"><span style="font-family:arial;font-size:85%;">http://www.Romantic-Secrets.com</span></a><span style="font-family:arial;font-size:85%;">, is a very special romance boutique where you can find romantic gifts, products and lots of free advice. </span><a href="http://www.romeosplaybook.com/"><span style="font-family:arial;font-size:85%;">http://www.RomeosPlaybook.com</span></a><span style="font-family:arial;font-size:85%;"> was created to promote her book "Romeo's Playbook," and also contains oodles of free advice. When she's not talking romance, you might find her singing, dancing and playing games with friends. Her other hobbies include making wine, playing pool and sitting by the fire pit in the summer drinking a beer. Stop by either site and visit awhile. </span><div class="blogger-post-footer"><img width='1' height='1' src='https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/tracker/1327573142623321899-5594079078724617175?l=blushingladies.naughtyblog.net%2Findex.html' alt='' /></div>GLBT Promojolie@joliedupre.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1327573142623321899.post-9616892649383730052008-01-20T18:42:00.000-08:002008-01-20T19:12:17.300-08:00Ten Commandments for 2008<a href="http://www.glitter-message.com/"><img height="299" src="http://dl8.glitter-graphics.net/pub/799/799078relj4pmvu9.jpg" width="479" border="0" /></a><br /><a href="http://www.glitter-works.org/" target="_blank"><span style="font-family:arial;">glitter-graphics.com</span></a><br /><br /><span style="font-family:arial;">The year 2008 is here. Working to achieve these 10 habits may be difficult, but they're worth a try.</span><br /><span style="font-family:Arial;"></span><br /><span style="font-family:Arial;">1. <strong>Thou shalt not put off until tomorrow what could be done today.</strong></span><br /><span style="font-family:Arial;"><br />There's that email you have yet to answer, the laundry that's been sitting in the basket waiting to be folded, the knob on the cabinet that needs to be tightened. We avoid certain tasks because we don't feel like doing them. But the more we procrastinate, the more things pile up. Decide to make time to attack tasks when they occur instead of putting them off.<br /><br />2. <strong>Thou shalt leave for work ten minutes earlier.</strong><br /><strong><br /></strong>Today you were late for work, and yesterday too. Every day you vow to be on time, yet every day you're late. Your boss has grown to accept it, but for how long? If you left for work earlier, you'd arrive on time. Decide to do what it takes to make it to work on time. Set the time on your clock behind a few minutes. Don't touch your snooze alarm. Lay your clothes out the night before.<br /><br />3. <strong>Thou shalt eat one cookie instead of four.</strong><br /><br />Diets are a temporary solution, but what about long term? Moderation is much more feasible for many of us. But we sabotage moderation all the time with gluttony. We stuff ourselves with sweets and then promise not to do it again, but soon we break our promise. Let's treat ourselves to sweets, but let's keep the consumption reasonable.<br /><br />4. <strong>Thou shalt read an intelligent book.</strong><br /><br />We haven't read Faulkner. We say we want to. So why do we always end up on the path of least resistance with a quickie paperback or a mindless magazine? We're tired and Faulkner takes work. So - work. Buy a study guide. Join a book club and suggest a title. Feed your brain for once.<br /><br />5. <strong>Thou shalt not buy another needless pair of shoes.</strong><br /><br />Our closet is full of them. Every time we feel a bit down, we buy a pair of shoes. When we need some excitement in our day - we buy a pair of shoes. We wear the shoes. We feel good. But soon the novelty wears off and the only way to bring it back is to buy another pair of shoes. We could use that money to pay off our credit cards. We could use that money to save. And we want to. We really do. So the next time we're tempted to make an impulse buy, let's look at why and let's determine if the money we're about to spend on shoes could be spent on better things.<br /><br /></span><span style="font-family:arial;">6. <strong>Thou shalt not gossip.</strong></span><br /></span><span style="font-family:arial;"><br />Talking about a person behind their back feels good. It makes us feel better about ourselves, especially when others agree with our opinion. But it's negative and loads of negative conversation make for a negative person. Let's vow to take the high road and leave gossip behind.<br /><br />7. <strong>Thou shalt pay more attention to the kids.</strong><br /><br />It's so easy to pop in a video and sit the kids in front of the tv. It gets even easier with teenagers. They just retreat on their own. But your kids won't be kids forever and quality time is important. Children need attention, even when they act like they don't. Get off the computer, stop cleaning the house and spend some time with your kids.<br /><br />8. <strong>Thou shalt eat more fruits and vegetables.</strong><br /><br />Are you a connoisseur of fruits and vegetables? Great. Eighty nine percent of adults are not. Instead of reaching for that bag of chips, grab an apple. Hate apples? Make it a pear. Make a salad. Buy pre-cut carrots, cut and washed lettuce, or any other vegetables that will make it easy to throw everything together. If you never eat fruits and vegetables, start with small amounts and work your way to more.<br /><br />9. <strong>Thou shalt do one good deed just because.</strong><br /><br />How many times do we do something for someone even when nobody knows it? Find one thing you can do without all the accolades. Donate money as anonymous. Shovel the neighbor's snow when they're not home.<br /><br />10. <strong>Thou shalt tell your wife or husband that you love them.</strong><br /><strong><br /></strong>You love your wife, but when was the last time you told her? Look your spouse in the eyes and say "I love you" often.</span><br /><br /><span style="font-family:arial;font-size:85%;"><a href="http://www.joliedupre.com/">Jolie du Pre </a>is a full-time published freelance writer and author and editor of erotica. She is pleased to be returning to The Blushing Ladies Journal.<br /></span><br /></span><br /><span style="font-family:arial;"></span><div class="blogger-post-footer"><img width='1' height='1' src='https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/tracker/1327573142623321899-961689264938373005?l=blushingladies.naughtyblog.net%2Findex.html' alt='' /></div>GLBT Promojolie@joliedupre.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1327573142623321899.post-31664848980583916682008-01-18T21:45:00.000-08:002008-01-18T22:10:21.787-08:00High-Five Fridays #1<a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="http://blushingladies.naughtyblog.net/uploaded_images/high-five-fridays-743285.png"><img style="margin: 0px auto 10px; display: block; text-align: center; cursor: pointer;" src="http://blushingladies.naughtyblog.net/uploaded_images/high-five-fridays-743283.png" alt="" border="0" /></a><br />Giving High-Fives to five cool erotic written works which are free to read on the web ~ if you are old enough and in the mood to do so...<br /><br />#1 <a href="http://blisteredlips.net/2008/01/13/cum-for-teacher/" target="_blank">Cum For Teacher</a>, by Angela St. Lawrence<br /><br />#2 <a href="http://www.lucreziamagazine.com/valetofvicksburg.html" target="_blank"> The Valet of Vicksburg</a>, by A E Franzen<br /><br />#3 <a href="http://eblyss.com/2007/12/30/your-figurine/" target="_blank">Your Figurine</a>, by Isabel Blyss<br /><br />#4 <a href="http://erotiterrorist.blogspot.com/2008/01/mondays-suck.html" target="_blank">Mondays Suck</a>, by Shon Richards<br /><br />#5 <a href="http://www.oystersandchocolate.com/members/article.asp?id=631" target="_blank">Low-Down, Stanky, Hurry-Up Love</a>, by Timothy N. Stelly, Sr.<br /><br /><a href="http://high-five-fridays.blogspot.com/" target="_blank">Find out how to give your High-Five Fridays here!</a> <p>The purpose of this meme is to give high-fives to 5 people, posts, blogs and/or websites you've admired during the week. I will link to everyone who participates and leaves a link to their 5 high-fives on Friday. Trackbacks, pings, linky widgets, comment links accepted!</p><p>Visiting fellow High-Fivers is encouraged! If you participate, leave the link to your High-Fives in others comments (please note if NWS). </p> <a rel="tag" href="http://technorati.com/tag/high-five+fridays">Find more High-Five Friday folks here!</a><br /><br /><script type="text/javascript" src="http://www.blenza.com/linkies/autolink.php?owner=SlipofaGirl&postid=21/JAN1808BL5"></script><div class="blogger-post-footer"><img width='1' height='1' src='https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/tracker/1327573142623321899-3166484898058391668?l=blushingladies.naughtyblog.net%2Findex.html' alt='' /></div>Gracie Passettehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08004785943659251570Gracie.Passette@gmail.com4tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1327573142623321899.post-54999598772128088642008-01-15T13:45:00.000-08:002008-01-15T13:48:02.082-08:00TMI For Couples?This week's <a href="http://tmituesday.blogspot.com/2008/01/tmi-tuesday-118-ebkac-edition.html" target="_blank">TMI Tuesday</a> questions are from my list of conversation starters for couples as posted in my <a href="http://blushingladies.naughtyblog.net/2008/01/13-ways-to-use-what-you-have-to-build.html" target="_blank">13 Ways To Use What You Have To Build Intimacy</a>.<br /><br />Thanks <a href="http://aslipofagirl.blogspot.com/" target="_blank">Slip of a Girl</a> for sending them in. *smile*<br /><br />I've <a href="http://www.sex-kitten.net/articles/2454481154209/TMI_%23118_Means_I_Answer_My_Own_Questions.html" target="_blank">posted my replies here</a> ~ and since these are supposed to be conversation starters, please join the conversation!<div class="blogger-post-footer"><img width='1' height='1' src='https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/tracker/1327573142623321899-5499959877212808864?l=blushingladies.naughtyblog.net%2Findex.html' alt='' /></div>Gracie Passettehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08004785943659251570Gracie.Passette@gmail.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1327573142623321899.post-13558129373621419272008-01-09T19:39:00.000-08:002008-01-09T19:53:18.924-08:00Autumn's First Wet WednesdayWelcome to my first Wet Wednesday. Wet Wednesday are fun little questions that give you some guiding points for discussion and for revealing a bit of yourself. If you'd like to participate in your own blog <a href="http://wetwednesday.blogspot.com/2008/01/ww2008-edition.html">you'll find Wet Wednesday here</a>.<br /><br /><strong><em>1. in the book </em></strong><a href="http://www.amazon.com/Cougar-Guide-Older-Dating-Younger/dp/1552976351/ref=pd_bbs_sr_1?ie=UTF8&s=books&qid=1199900098&sr=8-1"><strong><em>cougar: a guide for older women dating younger men</em></strong></a><strong><em> by <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_0">valerie</span> <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_1">gibson</span>, ms. <span class="blsp-spelling-error" id="SPELLING_ERROR_2">gibson</span> states that the typical cougar-prey age difference is six years. would you date - or have you ever dated - someone at least six years your junior?</em></strong><br />I never have dated someone that much younger although I did always used to date guys a few years younger than I was. If I weren't married though I'd be a total cougar. Especially if I wasn't looking to get married.<br /><br /><strong><em>2. what is the largest age difference between you and a paramour? who was older?</em></strong><br />The largest difference in any relationship is my current one. My husband is 7 years older than I am. <br /><br /><strong><em>3. what would you say to your friend if he/she was carrying on with a friend of their child? is this ever acceptable to you? why or why not?</em></strong><br />I think people should do whatever makes them happy. I've known a few people who had a difference of more than 5 years between them and they've been very happy - and yes, she was older than him. Age really doesn't matter if you love each other.<br /><br />But what about if you're just messing around. Well, the younger the better as far as I'm concerned. One of the best candidates for messing around in a non-committed relationship is a younger man. They aren't out for marriage, they don't care if you see other people, they have no hang ups. So, as long as both parties are old enough and mature enough to be in a relationship/messing around then it's no one's business but their own.<br /><br />However, if it is a friend of your kid that you're messing around with you should take your kid's feelings into consideration. And know that if you don't think about it it could make a mess out of your relationship with your child. Is it worth that?<div class="blogger-post-footer"><img width='1' height='1' src='https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/tracker/1327573142623321899-1355812937362141927?l=blushingladies.naughtyblog.net%2Findex.html' alt='' /></div>Autumn Seavehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/16965923657797757706noreply@blogger.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1327573142623321899.post-864082427640787362008-01-08T14:32:00.000-08:002008-01-08T14:33:59.381-08:00Sugasm #113<p>The best of this week’s blogs by the bloggers who blog them. Highlighting the top 3 posts as chosen by Sugasm participants. Want in Sugasm #114? Submit a link to your best post of the week using <a href="http://sugasm.com/sugasm-form">this form.</a> Participants, repost the link list within a week and you’re all set.</p> <p><strong>This Week’s Picks</strong><br /><a href="http://marketingwhore.naughtyblog.net/2008/01/different-kind-of-authority-for-sex.html" onclick="javascript:urchinTracker('/outbound/marketingwhore.naughtyblog.net/2008/01/different-kind-of-authority-for-sex.html');">A Different Kind Of Authority For Sex Bloggers</a><br />“As we sex workers, sex bloggers, and adult business folks swim in our ponds or spin in our micro universes & connect with others, we continue to build authority.”</p> <p><a href="http://www.sexualexpression.org/blog/blogshowpost.php?post_id=130&nsfw=1" onclick="javascript:urchinTracker('/outbound/www.sexualexpression.org/blog/blogshowpost.php?post_id=130_038_nsfw=1');">Of sex and strippers</a><br />“At one point she was straddling Girlfriend’s right leg, grinding her thigh against Girlfriend’s clit through her jeans.”</p> <p><a href="http://www.sex-kitten.net/articles/2454469192337/Wink_Wink%2C_Nudge_Nudge.html" onclick="javascript:urchinTracker('/outbound/www.sex-kitten.net/articles/2454469192337/Wink_Wink_2C_Nudge_Nudge.html');">Wink Wink, Nudge Nudge</a><br />Her comments were something to the effect of, “No one wanted to see me twirl with tassels ~ on fire or not ~ when some girl was going to sit on stage and insert things into herself.”</p> <p><strong>Mr. Sugasm Himself</strong><br /><a href="http://sugarbank.com/2008/01/04/kofola/" onclick="javascript:urchinTracker('/outbound/sugarbank.com/2008/01/04/kofola/');">Kofola</a></p> <p><strong>Editor’s Choice</strong><br /><a href="http://bestsexwriting2008.wordpress.com/2007/12/30/interview-with-paul-festa-about-circumcision/" onclick="javascript:urchinTracker('/outbound/bestsexwriting2008.wordpress.com/2007/12/30/interview-with-paul-festa-about-circumcision/');">Interview with Paul Festa about circumcision</a></p> <p><a href="http://sugasm.com/2008/01/08/sugasm-113/">More Sugasm</a><br /><a href="http://sugasm.com/sugasm-form">Join the Sugasm</a></p> <p>See also: Fleshbot’s Sex Blog Roundup each <a href="http://fleshbot.com/339237/sex-blog-roundup-popping-corks" onclick="javascript:urchinTracker('/outbound/fleshbot.com/339237/sex-blog-roundup-popping-corks');">Tuesday</a> and <a href="http://fleshbot.com/340440/sex-blog-roundup-in-with-the-new" onclick="javascript:urchinTracker('/outbound/fleshbot.com/340440/sex-blog-roundup-in-with-the-new');">Friday.</a></p> <p><strong>Erotic Writing and Experiences</strong><br /><a href="http://fullcontactmonogamy.blogspot.com/2008/01/aurel-sex-husband.html" onclick="javascript:urchinTracker('/outbound/fullcontactmonogamy.blogspot.com/2008/01/aurel-sex-husband.html');">Aurel Sex. - The Husband</a><br /><a href="http://selenakittyn.com/Blog/?p=519" onclick="javascript:urchinTracker('/outbound/selenakittyn.com/Blog/?p=519');">Cock Whore</a><br /><a href="http://andeatingit2.blogspot.com/2008/01/decibels.html" onclick="javascript:urchinTracker('/outbound/andeatingit2.blogspot.com/2008/01/decibels.html');">Decibels</a><br /><a href="http://bedroom-closet.com/2007/12/28/dreams-are-funny-things/" onclick="javascript:urchinTracker('/outbound/bedroom-closet.com/2007/12/28/dreams-are-funny-things/');">Dreams are funny things</a><br /><a href="http://ritaseagrave.com/?p=27" onclick="javascript:urchinTracker('/outbound/ritaseagrave.com/?p=27');">The Erotic Review</a><br /><a href="http://lizwired.com/2007/12/29/i-love-a-rainy-night/" onclick="javascript:urchinTracker('/outbound/lizwired.com/2007/12/29/i-love-a-rainy-night/');">I Love A Rainy Night</a><br /><a href="http://lindasuediary.blogspot.com/2008/01/night-i-was-initiated-on-frat-row.html" onclick="javascript:urchinTracker('/outbound/lindasuediary.blogspot.com/2008/01/night-i-was-initiated-on-frat-row.html');">The night I was initiated on Frat Row</a><br /><a href="http://aimingtoarouse.org/2007/12/30/opera-glasses/" onclick="javascript:urchinTracker('/outbound/aimingtoarouse.org/2007/12/30/opera-glasses/');">Opera Glasses</a><br /><a href="http://illyricaldespatches.blogspot.com/2007/12/score.html" onclick="javascript:urchinTracker('/outbound/illyricaldespatches.blogspot.com/2007/12/score.html');">Score</a><br /><a href="http://plum001.blogspot.com/2008/01/skin-breath-desire-rhythm.html" onclick="javascript:urchinTracker('/outbound/plum001.blogspot.com/2008/01/skin-breath-desire-rhythm.html');">Skin, breath, desire, rhythm</a><br /><a href="http://smutandthedirtygirl.blogspot.com/2008/01/uninvited.html" onclick="javascript:urchinTracker('/outbound/smutandthedirtygirl.blogspot.com/2008/01/uninvited.html');">Uninvited</a><br /><a href="http://mrandmrskink.wordpress.com/2007/12/30/yesterdays-sweet-blowjob/" onclick="javascript:urchinTracker('/outbound/mrandmrskink.wordpress.com/2007/12/30/yesterdays-sweet-blowjob/');">Yesterday’s Sweet Blowjob</a></p> <p><strong>Sex Work</strong><br /><a href="http://catalinaloves.com/2007/12/29/catalina-loves-giving-spankings/" onclick="javascript:urchinTracker('/outbound/catalinaloves.com/2007/12/29/catalina-loves-giving-spankings/');">Catalina loves Giving Spankings</a></p> <p><strong>NSFW Pics & Videos</strong><br /><a href="http://tgp.com/mizuki-horii/2008/01/02/mizuki-horii" onclick="javascript:urchinTracker('/outbound/tgp.com/mizuki-horii/2008/01/02/mizuki-horii');">Mizuki Horii</a><br /><a href="http://www.thesexcarnival.com/2007/01/andie-valentino-twistys/" onclick="javascript:urchinTracker('/outbound/www.thesexcarnival.com/2007/01/andie-valentino-twistys/');">Andie Valentino (Twistys)</a><br /><a href="http://www.taratainton.com/tara/tara.nsf/0/dd1462d0b5bf85f7882573c5001197aa?OpenDocument&Click=$refresh" onclick="javascript:urchinTracker('/outbound/www.taratainton.com/tara/tara.nsf/0/dd1462d0b5bf85f7882573c5001197aa?OpenDocument_038_Click=_refresh');">Half-Nekkid Thursday: View from MY Back Row</a><br /><a href="http://eroticandy.blogspot.com/2008/01/mindy-main-sexy-and-topless.html" onclick="javascript:urchinTracker('/outbound/eroticandy.blogspot.com/2008/01/mindy-main-sexy-and-topless.html');">Mindy Main Sexy and Topless</a><br /><a href="http://www.markydsade.com/2008/01/01/a-very-shibari-new-year-from-marky-d-sade/" onclick="javascript:urchinTracker('/outbound/www.markydsade.com/2008/01/01/a-very-shibari-new-year-from-marky-d-sade/');">A Very Shibari New Year From Marky D. Sade</a></p> <p><strong>Sex Advice</strong><br /><a href="http://blushingladies.naughtyblog.net/2008/01/13-ways-to-use-what-you-have-to-build.html" onclick="javascript:urchinTracker('/outbound/blushingladies.naughtyblog.net/2008/01/13-ways-to-use-what-you-have-to-build.html');">13 Ways To Use What You Have To Build Intimacy</a><br /><a href="http://embodiedsexuality.blogspot.com/2008/01/celebrate-2008-year-of-pussy.html" onclick="javascript:urchinTracker('/outbound/embodiedsexuality.blogspot.com/2008/01/celebrate-2008-year-of-pussy.html');">Celebrate 2008: The Year of the Pussy!</a><br /><a href="http://speaksexy.org/2007/12/29/just-seeing-my-girlfriend-turns-me-on-is-this-normal/" onclick="javascript:urchinTracker('/outbound/speaksexy.org/2007/12/29/just-seeing-my-girlfriend-turns-me-on-is-this-normal/');">Just Seeing My Girlfriend Turns Me On! Is This Normal?!</a><br /><a href="http://dailybedpost.com/2008/01/resolve-to-improve-your-sex-li.php" onclick="javascript:urchinTracker('/outbound/dailybedpost.com/2008/01/resolve-to-improve-your-sex-li.php');">Resolve to Improve Your Sex Life in 2008</a></p> <p><strong>Thoughts on Sex and Relationships</strong><br /><a href="http://wanklog.blogspot.com/2008/01/2007-wanking-totals.html" onclick="javascript:urchinTracker('/outbound/wanklog.blogspot.com/2008/01/2007-wanking-totals.html');">2007 Wanking Totals</a><br /><a href="http://thedaisyexperiment.blogspot.com/2007/12/discovering-art-of-masturbation.html" onclick="javascript:urchinTracker('/outbound/thedaisyexperiment.blogspot.com/2007/12/discovering-art-of-masturbation.html');">Discovering the Art of Masturbation</a><br /><a href="http://curvaceousdee.blogspot.com/2007/12/hair-b-gone.html" onclick="javascript:urchinTracker('/outbound/curvaceousdee.blogspot.com/2007/12/hair-b-gone.html');">Hair-B-Gone</a><br /><a href="http://blog.totallyannette.com/2008/01/03/i-fucked-this-guy-once-without-dirty-talk/" onclick="javascript:urchinTracker('/outbound/blog.totallyannette.com/2008/01/03/i-fucked-this-guy-once-without-dirty-talk/');">I fucked this guy once …without dirty talk!?!</a><br /><a href="http://perverselypoly.blogspot.com/2007/12/taking-one-for-team.html" onclick="javascript:urchinTracker('/outbound/perverselypoly.blogspot.com/2007/12/taking-one-for-team.html');">Taking One For the Team</a></p> <p><strong>Sex News, Reviews & Interviews</strong><br /><a href="http://trishwilson.typepad.com/the_countess/2008/01/new-at-nuts4chi.html" onclick="javascript:urchinTracker('/outbound/trishwilson.typepad.com/the_countess/2008/01/new-at-nuts4chi.html');">The Hello Kitty Vibrator - Battery-Powered Evil!!!</a><br /><a href="http://aslipofagirl.blogspot.com/2008/01/panties-second-only-to-auto-industry.html" onclick="javascript:urchinTracker('/outbound/aslipofagirl.blogspot.com/2008/01/panties-second-only-to-auto-industry.html');">Panties Second Only To Auto Industry</a><br /><a href="http://pleasurehappens.blogspot.com/2008/01/real-doll-rentals.html" onclick="javascript:urchinTracker('/outbound/pleasurehappens.blogspot.com/2008/01/real-doll-rentals.html');">Real Doll Rentals</a><br /><a href="http://livegirlreview.com/2008/01/02/working-sex-sex-workers-write-about-a-changing-industry/" onclick="javascript:urchinTracker('/outbound/livegirlreview.com/2008/01/02/working-sex-sex-workers-write-about-a-changing-industry/');">Working Sex: Sex Workers Write About a Changing Industry</a></p> <p><strong>BDSM & Fetish</strong><br /><a href="http://subnouveau.blogspot.com/2008/01/all-tied-up-and-no-where-to-go.html" onclick="javascript:urchinTracker('/outbound/subnouveau.blogspot.com/2008/01/all-tied-up-and-no-where-to-go.html');">All Tied Up and No Where To Go</a><br /><a href="http://unspeakableaxe.com/?p=54" onclick="javascript:urchinTracker('/outbound/unspeakableaxe.com/?p=54');">Am I A Masochist?</a><br /><a href="http://venusropes.blogspot.com/2007/12/daddy-play.html" onclick="javascript:urchinTracker('/outbound/venusropes.blogspot.com/2007/12/daddy-play.html');">Daddy Play</a><br /><a href="http://alteredhalf.blogspot.com/2008/01/descent-begins.html" onclick="javascript:urchinTracker('/outbound/alteredhalf.blogspot.com/2008/01/descent-begins.html');">The Descent Begins</a><br /><a href="http://longdistancesub.blogspot.com/2008/01/more-piss-slut-practice.html" onclick="javascript:urchinTracker('/outbound/longdistancesub.blogspot.com/2008/01/more-piss-slut-practice.html');">More piss slut practice</a><br /><a href="http://arousaloftheminx.wordpress.com/2008/01/01/fucked-like-a-whore/" onclick="javascript:urchinTracker('/outbound/arousaloftheminx.wordpress.com/2008/01/01/fucked-like-a-whore/');">Rough Fuck</a><br /><a href="http://sweatshopsissy.wordpress.com/2007/12/31/a-seven-orgasm-day/" onclick="javascript:urchinTracker('/outbound/sweatshopsissy.wordpress.com/2007/12/31/a-seven-orgasm-day/');">A Seven Orgasm Day</a><br /><a href="http://lolitawolf.blogspot.com/2008/01/two-thirds.html" onclick="javascript:urchinTracker('/outbound/lolitawolf.blogspot.com/2008/01/two-thirds.html');">Two-thirds</a><br /><a href="http://transformher.blogspot.com/2008/01/who-knew-uncle-sam-was-kinky.html" onclick="javascript:urchinTracker('/outbound/transformher.blogspot.com/2008/01/who-knew-uncle-sam-was-kinky.html');">Who knew Uncle Sam was kinky?</a></p><div class="blogger-post-footer"><img width='1' height='1' src='https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/tracker/1327573142623321899-86408242764078736?l=blushingladies.naughtyblog.net%2Findex.html' alt='' /></div>Gracie Passettehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08004785943659251570Gracie.Passette@gmail.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1327573142623321899.post-41419196257040801142008-01-05T16:02:00.000-08:002008-01-05T16:08:00.090-08:00Show & Tell Adult Meme: End Of The Year Edition<span style="font-style: italic;">Sure to be cross-posted because I blog too darn much</span> :p<br /><br /><b>1 What was your very favorite post you made this past year?</b><br /><br />While I seem to enjoy making things 'all about me', and did author this question, in actuality this question makes me nervous...<br /><br />But I'll go with <a href="http://blushingladies.naughtyblog.net/2007/08/fantasy-vs-reality-what-is-cheating.html" target="_blank">Fantasy Vs. Reality: What Is Cheating?</a> because it's still a very valid question/conversation. Feel free to keep it going by adding your own thoughts.<br /><br /><b>2 What post was the most effective post you made this past year? (Based on links to it, comments, emails, sales etc.)</b><br /><br /><a href="http://www.sex-kitten.net/articles/2454326164450/Skanky_Panties_%26_The_Business_of_Faux_Fish.html" target="_blank">Skanky Panties & The Business of Faux Fish Juices</a> wins, hands down (no pun intended... maybe) because of the number of emails asking for everything from who I personally knew that was ethical to how much money could they make... And oh yeah, let's not forget the number of offers for my panties. <i>(When offers run above $250, I may just consider it!)</i><br /><br /><b>3 What are three of your favorite posts/articles that you've read this past year? (Not your own, but the works of others.) And do tell us all why you selected them.</b><br /><br />I know I wrote this question, but I fear it may get me killed by kittens, <a href=http://www.sex-kitten.net/home.html>Sex Kittens</a> that is :p So I'm just going to say, yet again, that all the Sex Kittens humble and awe me for their honesty, wit, humor, intelligence and desire to share with all of us.<br /><br />And, should you be looking for more to read, check out what the kittens and tom cats are posting <a href="http://www.sex-kitten.net/discuss.php" target="_blank">in the forum</a>.<br /><br /><b>4 What was the most surprising thing you learned in 2007?</b><br /><br />That people <span style="font-style: italic;">continue</span> to prefer to email vs. posting comments, especially when it comes to sexual topics. <br /><br /><b>5 What was the most valuable thing or lesson you learned in 2007?</b><br /><br />That flesh will remind you of the speed at which you can work. I was very ill this year and I'm working on being kinder to my being.<br /><br /><b>6 Is there anything you wanted to learn this past year that you did not? Why not? And are you going to make this a goal for 2008?</b><br /><br /><a href="http://www.sex-kitten.net/articles/2454238173743/The_Sex_Kitten_History%3B_The_Sex_Kitten_Future.html" target="_blank">My goal to make sex more mainstream</a>, which is nearly a decade long Internet struggle ~ and longer in the 'real world', has not been met.<br /><br />It's a very large goal and I'm beginning to see the path more clearly, even written down some of the steps I'll need to take. I'm sure I'll announce them here as I achieve them, but I won't jinx them by listing them here.<br /><br />It may take another decade. And I'm committed to it.<br /><br /><b>Optional (but worth 100 extra Marketing Whore Bucks lol):</b> For most of us, guarding our identities means not taking/publishing photos, but I double-dog dare you to take some photo of yourself, crop it to remove what you think is necessary to keep your privacy but still gives something special (and hopefully naughty) of you away ~ and publish it on your blog.<br /><br /><a onblur="try {parent.deselectBloggerImageGracefully();} catch(e) {}" href="http://marketingwhore.naughtyblog.net/uploaded_images/graciepassette_grey-785207.jpg"><img style="margin: 0px auto 10px; display: block; text-align: center; cursor: pointer;" src="http://marketingwhore.naughtyblog.net/uploaded_images/graciepassette_grey-785205.jpg" alt="" border="0" /></a><br /><br /><script type="text/javascript" src="http://www.blenza.com/linkies/autolink.php?owner=SlipofaGirl&postid=21/JAN0507BLmw"></script><br /><br /><span style="font-weight: bold;">To participate, <a href="http://marketingwhore.naughtyblog.net/" target="_blank">see how here</a>.</span> Thanks :)<div class="blogger-post-footer"><img width='1' height='1' src='https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/tracker/1327573142623321899-4141919625704080114?l=blushingladies.naughtyblog.net%2Findex.html' alt='' /></div>Gracie Passettehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08004785943659251570Gracie.Passette@gmail.com3tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1327573142623321899.post-34865880459031324402008-01-03T05:40:00.000-08:002008-01-03T07:27:33.084-08:0013 Ways To Use What You Have To Build Intimacy<table align="center" border="1" cellspacing="0"><tbody><tr><td align="center" bgcolor="#e88caa"><img src="http://intricateart.com/blog/thursdaythirteenpink.jpg" /><br /></td></tr><tr><td style="background: rgb(232, 140, 170) none repeat scroll 0% 50%; text-align: left; -moz-background-clip: -moz-initial; -moz-background-origin: -moz-initial; -moz-background-inline-policy: -moz-initial;" align="left"><center style="font-weight: bold;"></center><br /><br />Often in relationships, we feel we're stuck in a rut or otherwise complain our love lives have lost their luster and we turn to date nights or other expensive outings when <span style="font-style: italic;">what we really should be doing</span> is stop the distractions and focus on each other. Now the holidays have mostly passed, we tend to stay inside & this makes it an excellent time to concentrate on building intimacy in our relationships.<br /><br /><span style="font-weight: bold;">Here are thirteen ways to use what we have to build intimacy and rekindle the passion in our relationships:</span><br /><br /><span style="font-weight: bold;">1</span> Spend time talking & listening to each other. Having a real conversation brings back that joy of discovery you once had. To some, this sounds too simple; but to this I say, "It's often the simplest things which are the best." To others having a conversation seems impossible. What could you possibly talk about? Avoid potentially threatening topics (you know, the ones that get you arguing) and return to the kinds of things you once talked about until the sun came up... Possibilities include:<br /><blockquote>If you could live in any home on a television series, what would it be?<br />If you had a clone, what would you make it do so you could have free time?<br />Who was your best friend when you were 8? When you were 13?<br />If you could travel anywhere, where would it be & why?<br />Would you hate loosing your sight or hearing most?<br />What's your favorite musical?<br />Nature or nurture?<br />What's your favorite/least favorite commercial?<br />What magazine have you always wanted a subscription to but forget about?</blockquote><span style="font-weight: bold;">2</span> Put on that lingerie, dress, sweater or other outfit he gave you as a gift (this year, or ages ago). Men, you too; put put on that tie, tee or whatever she gave you. Not only does this let your lover know you appreciate it, but fulfills their fantasies of seeing you in it.<br /><br /><span style="font-weight: bold;">3</span> Read ~ together. Create a book club for two by talking about a book (or 10). You need not have two copies as each of you can take turns reading in your spare time, but agree that over the weekend or on Wednesday night, you'll talk about the book together.<br /><br /><span style="font-weight: bold;">4</span> Read ~ out loud. Be it a poem, a dirty story, or something from the newspaper funnies, read out loud to your lover what you love or what you think your partner will enjoy. (<a href="http://blushingladies.naughtyblog.net/2007/06/adult-meme-q.html" target="_blank">Women love to be read aloud to</a>; and men may find this more fun than they thought if the subject matter is selected properly ~ or <span style="font-style: italic;">improperly</span>! *wink*)<br /><br /><span style="font-weight: bold;">5</span> Cook a meal together. Open the cookbook, and make a new dish together. (OK, this may require a visit to the grocery store; but you'll have to get food at some point anyway...)<br /><br /><span style="font-weight: bold;">6</span> Turn off that TV and <a href="http://blushingladies.naughtyblog.net/2007/06/games-couples-play.html" target="_blank">play a game</a>.<br /><br /><span style="font-weight: bold;">7</span> If you must watch TV or a movie, remember to reach for & hold your partner's hand.<br /><br /><span style="font-weight: bold;">8</span> Write holiday 'thank you' cards together. Not only are you spending time together, but being grateful for your family & friends reminds you of the life you've built <span style="font-style: italic;">together</span>. Your family & friends sure will appreciate it too.<br /><br /><span style="font-weight: bold;">9</span> Pamper your partner. Give her a pedicure; him a massage. Hand him the remote & sit topless at his feet. (And vice-versa are options too!) Do it 'just because', without any expectations, and with a smile.<br /><br /><span style="font-weight: bold;">10</span> Write love notes and place them where your partner is sure to find them. Don't just say, "I love you," tell them <span style="font-style: italic;">why you love them</span>.<br /><br /><span style="font-weight: bold;">11</span> Write playful love notes & leave a trail of them, like a scavenger hunt. Start with one note where your partner is sure to find it ~ have part of it be a riddle or clue to where the next note is. When they follow all the clues and find all the notes, give them a reward. The reward can be as simple as a foot rub, as sexy as a oral sex, or as silly as a pudding cup; the point is to have fun!<br /><br /><span style="font-weight: bold;">12</span> Dress up, but stay home. Ladies, put on that fancy dress, those high heels, your makeup & special occasion perfume. Men, put on that shirt and tie and your cologne too. Light the candles, enjoy cocktails and dance together. Primping for one another makes both you both feel special ~ and sexy.<br /><br /><span style="font-weight: bold;">13</span> Do the Sunday crossword puzzle together in bed or at the breakfast table together. Alternately, if crosswords aren't your thing, get a bowl of strawberries (<a href="http://www.sex-kitten.net/articles/2453857173929/Vixen%27s_Guide_To_Messy_Sex_-_Part_Three.html" target="_blank">maybe some Cool Whip, just in case</a> *wink*) and pour over a few magazines together and mock celebrities or ads.<br /><br /><span style="font-weight: bold;">So go ahead, give these a try ~ maybe you'll skip cabin fever and want to stay home with each other all the time! *wink*</span><br /><br /><script type="text/javascript" src="http://www.blenza.com/linkies/autolink.php?owner=SlipofaGirl&postid=21/JAN0307BL13T"></script><br /><br /><br /></td></tr></tbody></table><br /><br /><center><a href="http://www.blogger.com/%20http://thursdaythirteen.com">Get the Thursday Thirteen code here!</a><br /><br /><br />The purpose of the meme is to get to know everyone who participates a little bit better every Thursday. Visiting fellow Thirteeners is encouraged! If you participate, leave the link to your Thirteen in others comments. It’s easy, and fun! Be sure to update your Thirteen with links that are left for you, as well! I will link to everyone who participates and leaves a link to their 13 things. Trackbacks, pings, comment links accepted!<br /><br /><a href="http://technorati.com/tag/thursday+thirteen" rel="tag">View More Thursday Thirteen Participants</a><br /><br /></center><div class="blogger-post-footer"><img width='1' height='1' src='https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/tracker/1327573142623321899-3486588045903132440?l=blushingladies.naughtyblog.net%2Findex.html' alt='' /></div>Gracie Passettehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08004785943659251570Gracie.Passette@gmail.com7tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1327573142623321899.post-16307956997736549032007-12-17T14:00:00.000-08:002007-12-17T14:03:42.983-08:00Forget The Hearts & FlowersSometimes women just want it. As this short story, <a style="font-style: italic;" href="http://blisteredlips.net/2007/11/14/over-the-sink/" target="_blank">Over The Sink</a> by Angela St. Lawrence, illustrates. Here's a snippet:<br /><blockquote>"Don't kiss me on the neck."<br /><br /><span style="font-style: italic;">"Why? I thought you liked it."</span><br /><br />"I do. Just not right now. I just want fucked. Just stick it in."<br /><br />"Okay, but don't bitch at me later."<br /><br />"Christ, shut the hell up and stick in it."<br /><br />And then he is pushing her over the kitchen sink, sliding her skirt up over her generous, round ass. Surprised to see she is not wearing panties, he thinks better of saying anything; she obviously isn't in the mood to listen.<br /></blockquote><div class="blogger-post-footer"><img width='1' height='1' src='https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/tracker/1327573142623321899-1630795699773654903?l=blushingladies.naughtyblog.net%2Findex.html' alt='' /></div>Gracie Passettehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08004785943659251570Gracie.Passette@gmail.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1327573142623321899.post-3910215480580950142007-11-12T20:24:00.000-08:002007-11-12T20:36:47.243-08:00Erotic Fantasies: To Share Or Not To Share (Part One)<span style="font-style: italic;">The matter of when ~ and if so, how ~ to share erotic fantasies often comes up. Since <a href="http://www.sex-kitten.net/articles/2454407062253/Shame%2C_Shame%2C_Shame%3B_Shame_of_Fools.html" target="_blank">Secondhand Rose had recently shared her 'shameful perversion'</a> and had mentioned the difficulty in sharing this with lovers, I asked her to address the issue. Here's what she said.</span><br /><br />First of all, let me firmly state that as a writer and a phone sex operator who deals in delivering fantasies -- and as a woman who has gone about trying to live them -- there are times when fantasies should remain untried.<br /><br />This does not mean you shouldn't share them with your partner. Discussing sexual fantasies is not only fun, but it certainly is a part of feeling understood and accepted by your partner. <span style="font-style: italic;">However, just because a lover accepts your fantasies it doesn't mean acting them out is a good idea.</span> On the contrary, sometimes it's a horrible idea.<br /><br />Sometimes it's a horrible idea if the fantasy's not been particularly well thought-out. It could be you don't realize where that fantasy comes from, where it might take you...<br /><br />Maybe swapping & sharing partners seems like a thrill, but what about jealousy? Real or imagined, jealousy can be a huge relationship problem, lasting longer than the few minutes of hot action. On the flip side, what if your partner flips for a new partner? Those considering such fantasies need to consider all the possible relationship pratfalls and pitfalls before getting others involved. (For those interested, I highly recommend <a href="http://perverselypoly.blogspot.com/" target="_blank">reading Polyamorously Perverse</a>.)<br /><br />The trick to avoiding problems is to think about the fantasy, asking yourself, "Just what is this really about?" Why it thrills, what the arousal is from, knowing these things makes it easier to even <span style="font-style: italic;">consider</span> acting them out. Discussing it with a partner might be the best way to see the light of dark fantasies; they'll often point out what they see going on (just don't shoot them for being the messenger!). So think and discuss away, and see if the fantasy still stays.<br /><br />Forcing yourself to think about fantasies, stripping them of their glamour and appeal to look at the worst-case-scenarios, is the best way to avoid perversion purgatory. <span style="font-style: italic;">And, if you think your fantasies can't survive such scrutiny, then I suggest they are too fragile to stand the real life action too.</span><br /><br />It's hard to turn a heavenly erotic fantasy into earthly carnal delights if you've not examined it every-which-way -- not just for the possible consequences, but for it's specificness.<br /><br />Fantasies have a poor chance of <span style="font-style: italic;">becoming</span> reality if they are not <span style="font-style: italic;">based</span> in reality, and sometimes we've created such specific scenes in our heads that they just can't become reality. As my dear friend, Angela, <a href="http://www.sex-kitten.net/discuss.php?content=1873" target="_blank">wrote</a>:<br /><blockquote>Here is what I did find for myself: I have some very specific taboo fantasies, which have nothing to do with my reality and who I am. But, I did share them with one lover. He tried to act the fantasies out with me. And as good as he was in bed, the fantasy didn't work. God Bless him, he tried.<br /><br />Sooo....I've come to the conclusion that my fantasy is mine alone. It's so much better in my head than in a real bed.</blockquote>This can (and will) happen when you've been fantasising about something so specific (and often for quite some time) that no reality can match it. No matter how willing, a partner cannot anticipate your needs as precisely as your imagination can. It's not their fault; there's really no way for a living person to be able to do & say just as you want, when you want, especially when they're up against a script you've perfected in your head for years.<br /><br />There are some fantasies, no matter what you do or who you do them with, which will ever fade against the vivid images & sensations in your mind.<br /><br />My last warning about making sex fantasies real has to do with another simple reality of fantasies: they can be selfish.<br /><br />While fetish and BDSM fantasies are often too specific, making them troublesome to bring to life, the fantasies are often so 'all about you' that the other person is not more than a prop. Often it's about what you feel, not about anything -- anyone -- else. Take the desire to be spanked where the person spanking you is about as just the person wielding the leather paddle, not a person whose arousal matters. As necessary as the paddle, maybe; but about as cared for. <span style="font-style: italic;">When fantasies are so one-sided, so completely about you, it's not fair to ask a lover to play along.</span><br /><br />This is often why kink that falls under the BDSM or fetish banners is so powerful as erotic entertainment, and why it's prolific at story sites and good business with PSOs. It's not that these fantasies, or any fantasy, cannot be shared but it's that they are less able to survive in the real world where the fantasy of one must meet the satisfaction of two.<br /><br />Fantasies like these are often best saved for solo-entertainment, or shared as an aphrodisiac to get lovers in the mood, but not be the sex acts themselves.<br /><br />Angela recently <a href="http://www.zenfetish.com/2007/11/02/faux-femdom-phone/" target="_blank">discussed the differences between fantasies delivered by Professional Dominatrixes and real-world domination</a>. It was a conversation started by <a href="http://bitchyjones.wordpress.com/" target="_blank">Bitchy Jones</a>, and you really should read it, but here's something wise Angela said:<br /><blockquote>Not all men want to actually BE DOMINATED FOR REAL, thank you very much. They want their impossible fantasy, just <i>for a little bit</i>. They are self-aware enough, and perhaps even self-protective enough, to occasionally get their dirty little itch scratched (via a phone dom or a pro dom), and then get back to the business of their everyday lives. I actually understand wanting a fantasy and not a reality. Because what I get off on by myself and what I get off with a partner are two very different things.</blockquote>It's a good thing to know if and when there is a difference.<br /><br />In any of these cases, you can keep the fantasy alive best via a written or a spoken story, or by talking about it with a partner; but it might be best to leave it at that and not ask a partner to participate in it.<br /><br />However, if you are <span style="font-style: italic;">clear on your fantasies</span> and still believe they are safe to move to reality, then stick around because next time I'll discuss how to share them -- and get them happily fulfilled.<br /><br /><span style="font-weight: bold;">© Secondhand Rose, a writer turned phone companion and conversationalist, who can be found at her blog, <a href="http://callsecondhandrose.blogspot.com/" target="_blank">Secondhand Rose</a>.</span><div class="blogger-post-footer"><img width='1' height='1' src='https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/tracker/1327573142623321899-391021548058095014?l=blushingladies.naughtyblog.net%2Findex.html' alt='' /></div>Gracie Passettehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08004785943659251570Gracie.Passette@gmail.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1327573142623321899.post-12338422684756486002007-10-29T19:51:00.000-07:002007-10-30T12:41:57.987-07:00Five Questions for a Beauty<a href="http://blushingladies.naughtyblog.net/uploaded_images/fiona-(22)-751391.JPG"><img style="FLOAT: left; MARGIN: 0px 10px 10px 0px; CURSOR: hand" alt="" src="http://blushingladies.naughtyblog.net/uploaded_images/fiona-(22)-751384.JPG" border="0" /></a><br /><div><span style="font-family:arial;font-size:130%;"><strong>Five Questions for a Beauty</strong></span></div><br /><div><span style="font-family:arial;font-size:130%;"><strong></strong></span></div><div><span style="font-family:arial;font-size:130%;">Fiona Zedde</span></div><br /><div><span style="font-family:arial;"></span></div><div><span style="font-family:arial;">Immediately after I read Fiona Zedde's submission to Iridescence, "Night Music," she became one of my favorite writers. I got to meet Fiona in LA for a group Iridescence reading, and I found her to be just as gorgeous as the beautiful imagery in her story. Fiona has written three novels and you can visit her website <a href="http://www.fionazedde.com/">here</a>.</span><span style="font-family:arial;"> </span></div><br /><br /><div><span style="font-family:arial;"></span></div><span style="font-family:arial;">1. <strong>Name a favorite book</strong>. - <em>Abeng</em> by Michelle Cliff<br /><br />2. <strong>Name a favorite piece of music</strong>. - "Receive" by Junior Kelly (and everything on Madeleine Peyroux's "Careless Love" CD)<br /><br />3. <strong>You've been invited to a cocktail party. What do you wear?</strong> - high heeled sandals and green nail polish with a flowing knee length monochromatic dress.<br /><br />4. <strong>What do you feel has been your most important writing accomplishment to date?</strong> - To have my first novel go into its 3rd printing.<br /><br />5. <strong>What is your next writing project? </strong>- A novel currently called <em>Hungry For It</em> due in Summer 2008. </span><div class="blogger-post-footer"><img width='1' height='1' src='https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/tracker/1327573142623321899-1233842268475648600?l=blushingladies.naughtyblog.net%2Findex.html' alt='' /></div>GLBT Promojolie@joliedupre.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1327573142623321899.post-79361686419270033402007-10-26T17:53:00.000-07:002007-10-26T18:20:39.692-07:00Five For FridayFive juicy erotic excerpts, with five great lessons for improving your love life.<br /><br />From <a href="http://theprovocateur.wordpress.com/2007/10/08/threesome/" target="_blank">Threesome, by The Provocateur</a>:<br /><blockquote>The way we touch, is foreplay. From across a table or in the car. The way we giggle, is foreplay. Our words, no matter how stern, are always laced within the dance of foreplay.</blockquote>This reminds us that no matter what, the emotional life of sexual play isn't reserved for sexual contact. (Even if it's only two of you. *wink*)<br /><br />From <a href="http://www.sex-kitten.net/2454363021020.html" target="_blank">Grateful as Panties, by Jeremy Edwards</a>:<br /><blockquote>"I'm as grateful as your cotton panties," he said one morning, out of the blue.<br /><br />..."Your cotton panties cling to you in a special way, don't they," he continued. "They hug you, they hold you, they seem to caress you. They love you, Janice." His finger found her ass crack.</blockquote>A reminder to say thanks for all those little everyday things.<br /><br />From <a href="http://erotiterrorist.blogspot.com/2007/10/fiction-seven-curses-of-hannah-part_26.html" target="_blank">The Seven Curses of Hannah (Part Seven), by Shon Richards</a>:<br /><blockquote>“Adam isn’t so bad,” Hannah thought. It was Saturday morning, and Adam had made breakfast. He made his very complicated bacon omelets. The table was laid out for two, and he made a big deal out of pretending to be her waiter. It reminded Hannah so much of how he used to act when they were dating.</blockquote>A reminder that little things do, in fact, mean a lot. If your relationship is feeling anything less than its original rush, think about the things you used to do for your partner... How long has it been since you've done them? Whipping her up an omelet like you used to do may whip up your sex life.<br /><br />From <a href="http://smutgirl.blogspot.com/2007/10/marks.html" target="_blank">Marks, by Sommer Marsden</a>:<br /><blockquote>The first time David bit me, I wasn’t expecting it. I was also shocked by how quickly I came. The shock was instant, the orgasm a close second. Hard. Intense. Like nothing I had ever experienced before. I was hooked.</blockquote>Proof that asking isn't always the best idea. Passion isn't planned, so asking her if she wants to be bit, spanked or just plain old kissed ruins the mood. Sometimes surprise is our best erotic ally.<br /><br />And lastly, if all else fails and all you've got is some pent up anger and resentment, use it. As <a href="http://www.sex-kitten.net/2454363020232.html" target="_blank">Kis Lee tells us in The Grudge Fuck</a>:<br /><blockquote>No kissing; no teasing. I pulled him towards the couch and tripped him. He fell flat on his back. I swore at him and told him how pissed off I was. I called him nonsensical insults and made up curse words. I covered his face with sloppy kisses, leaving red trails across his nose and chin. When he reached for his belt, I stopped him. This isn't your grudge fuck; it's mine. You don't get to call the shots. </blockquote>Somethings you just have to ride out. *wink*<div class="blogger-post-footer"><img width='1' height='1' src='https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/tracker/1327573142623321899-7936168641927003340?l=blushingladies.naughtyblog.net%2Findex.html' alt='' /></div>Gracie Passettehttp://www.blogger.com/profile/08004785943659251570Gracie.Passette@gmail.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1327573142623321899.post-87723508422759486362007-10-22T14:10:00.000-07:002007-10-22T15:50:01.880-07:00Five Questions for a Beauty<a href="http://blushingladies.naughtyblog.net/uploaded_images/TaraTainton2-753009.jpg"><img style="FLOAT: left; MARGIN: 0px 10px 10px 0px; CURSOR: hand" alt="" src="http://blushingladies.naughtyblog.net/uploaded_images/TaraTainton2-752996.jpg" border="0" /></a><br /><div><span style="font-family:arial;font-size:130%;"><strong>Five Questions for a Beauty</strong></span></div><br /><div><span style="font-family:arial;font-size:130%;"><strong></strong></span></div><div><span style="font-family:arial;font-size:130%;">Tara Tainton</span></div><br /><div><span style="font-family:arial;"></span></div><div><span style="font-family:arial;">Tara Tainton is, without question, a hottie. I met her about four or five years ago at </span><a href="http://www.erotica-readers.com/"><span style="font-family:arial;">ERWA</span></a><span style="font-family:arial;">. Tara is also a smartie. She calls her website - </span><a href="http://www.taratainton.com/"><span style="font-family:arial;">Tara.Tainton.com </span></a><span style="font-family:arial;">- the "fasting growing playground for consenting adults." It's jam packed with information. </span></div><br /><br /><div><span style="font-family:arial;"></span></div><div><span style="font-family:arial;font-size:85%;"><em>"This site is designed to be a safe, warm, and welcoming place for all adults to play. Created by sex writer Tara Tainton, this playground advocates her belief that SEX IS GOOD.It includes honest, written descriptions of sexual situations and artistic images (if you’re lucky)of the beautiful human form through explicit stories, articles, photographs, videos, games,news, links, and other sex-related resources in a variety of forms...all confirming that sex is natural, healthy, and enlightening."</em></span></div><br /><div><em><span style="font-family:arial;font-size:85%;"></span></em></div><div><span style="font-family:arial;">Be sure to hop over for a visit. I guarantee you'll be back for more. Check out her </span><a href="http://www.cafepress.com/taratainton/"><span style="font-family:arial;">Naughty Shop </span></a><span style="font-family:arial;">as well!</span></div><br /><div><span style="font-family:arial;font-size:85%;"></span></div><div><strong><span style="font-family:arial;">1. Name a favorite book.</span></strong></div><br /><div><span style="font-family:arial;font-size:85%;"></span></div><div><span style="font-family:arial;">One of my past reads that had a significant impact on my own life, goals, perspectives, and relationships with others is Ayn Rand's <em>Atlas Shrugged</em>. A past lover I had a great mental connection with gave the book to me as a gift years ago knowing the ideas and Ayn Rand's own life, beliefs, and fearlessness would reach something within myself. I still refer to favorite quotes, ideas, and manners of living presented within the book, and the same have definitely influenced my writing itself, even achieving my dream of "being a writer" in the first place. Rand's works, essays, and life include so many positive lessons and empowering ideas regarding womanhood, love, sex, self-confidence, self-esteem, individual goals and accomplishments, business, independence, and even the strength to disregard those negative influences and judgments from others. The same definitely have a place in the area of writing erotica as well.</span></div><br /><div><span style="font-family:arial;"></span></div><div><span style="font-family:arial;"></span></div><div><strong><span style="font-family:arial;">2. Name a favorite piece of music.</span></strong></div><br /><div><span style="font-family:arial;"></span></div><div><span style="font-family:arial;">A favorite piece of music... that's a hard one as my favorite pieces of music come and go along with different phases of life and love experienced, always having a significant place in my heart but always changing. I tend to be moved by the words and thoughts behind songs most of all... ideas that match my own, offer a new perspective, or just motivate me positively in some direction. Oh, there's Macy Gray's "Do Something" and "Time of My Life," Green Day's "Minority," U2's "Last Night on Earth" and "Beautiful Day," Alanis Morissette's "You Learn," Semisonic's "This Will Be My Year," Jesus Jones's "Right Here, Right Now," The Rolling Stones' "I'm Free," David Gray's "Babylon," Incubus's "Drive," The New Radicals' "You Get What You Give," Moloko's "The Time Is Now," ....just to name a few! </span></div><br /><div><span style="font-family:arial;"></span></div><div><strong><span style="font-family:arial;">3. You've been invited to a cocktail party. What do you wear?</span></strong></div><br /><div><span style="font-family:arial;"></span></div><div><span style="font-family:arial;">A cocktail party! Will you be there, Jolie?? ;) Considering the influence my current "home city" of Las Vegas has had on me for the last year and my own unexpected desire to be a little more traditionally womanly (glamorous?) as I get older, I'd have to wear a pair of strappy stilettos and a short dress that barely covers everything. Oh, and a g-string that makes me feel sexy. And I always make sure I'm wearing something I feel comfortable and beautiful in, regardless of the views or opinions of others, sometimes even against my own partner's taste for MY attire. :)</span></div><br /><div><span style="font-family:arial;"></span></div><div><span style="font-family:arial;"></span></div><div><strong><span style="font-family:arial;">4. What do you feel has been your most important writing accomplishment to date?</span></strong></div><br /><div><span style="font-family:arial;"></span></div><div><span style="font-family:arial;">My most important writing accomplishment... it's easy to mentally start filing down a list of publishing credits here or there, but I don't think any of that's actually important (only helpful to pass along to those editors who do think it is!). I definitely take most pride in the level of integrity and honesty in my voice in my own writing, which comes through in my public blogging on my personal site as well. I've felt most accomplished, most in tune with my life's purpose and my own direction, when I've heard from readers how a thought, story, article, or expressed opinion of mine has reached out to them somehow, made them view their own life more positively, helped them feel normal, natural, even empowered to stand up for want they really want and need in their own lives. And I can always sit back and look at my bodies of work, whether it's a casual blog post or story or article sold, and know that I was completely honest and true to myself in all of it. I'm sharing the real me with the world, and I know that comes through my writing and helps me to connect and share something special with others.</span></div><br /><div><span style="font-family:arial;"></span></div><div><strong><span style="font-family:arial;">5. What is your next writing project?</span></strong></div><br /><div><span style="font-family:arial;"></span></div><div><span style="font-family:arial;">My next writing project/goal is to simply delve more into my own curiosities, personal exploration, and fears and see what stories, opinions, and ideas develop. I want to discover what's hidden in that dark place inside.... beautiful stories, I'm sure. ;)<br /></span></div><br /><br /><br /><br /><div><span style="font-family:arial;"></span></div><br /><br /><br /><br /><div><span style="font-family:arial;"><br /></span></div><br /><br /><br /><br /><div></div><div class="blogger-post-footer"><img width='1' height='1' src='https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/tracker/1327573142623321899-8772350842275948636?l=blushingladies.naughtyblog.net%2Findex.html' alt='' /></div>GLBT Promojolie@joliedupre.com1tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1327573142623321899.post-74719835648028917842007-10-21T15:00:00.000-07:002007-10-21T22:24:35.564-07:00TRUE EROTIC TALES - Series 2<a href="http://1.bp.blogspot.com/_Btfw9VMXBWU/Rv6SnF-0O3I/AAAAAAAAAIk/kBW8xFCVbXQ/s1600-h/couple.jpg"><img id="BLOGGER_PHOTO_ID_5115687427057662834" style="FLOAT: left; MARGIN: 0px 10px 10px 0px; CURSOR: hand" alt="" src="http://1.bp.blogspot.com/_Btfw9VMXBWU/Rv6SnF-0O3I/AAAAAAAAAIk/kBW8xFCVbXQ/s320/couple.jpg" border="0" /></a><br /><span style="font-family:arial;font-size:130%;">TRUE EROTIC TALES - Series 2</span><br /><br /><span style="font-family:arial;">TRUE EROTIC TALES are non-fictional erotic essays written by authors of today.</span><br /><br /><br /><span style="font-family:Arial;"></span><br /><br /><br /><span style="font-family:Arial;"></span><br /><br /><br /><span style="font-family:Arial;"></span><br /><br /><br /><span style="font-family:Arial;"></span><br /><br /><br /><span style="font-family:Arial;font-size:180%;">WHAT TURNS YOU ON? WHAT TURNS YOU OFF? </span><br /><br /><span style="font-family:Arial;font-size:130%;"><strong>Jeremy Edwards</strong></span><br /><span style="font-family:Arial;">Jeremy's <a href="http://www.myspace.com/jerotic">MySpace</a></span><br /><br /><span style="font-family:arial;">Like most writers, I respond very strongly to words. They can be so evocative and powerful--and, of course, erotic. So one of the things that really turns me on is to hear a woman talk about things that are sexy to me. When the context is directly sexual--e.g., hearing my wife tell me, in bed and with recourse to the frankest language, what she wants or how good something feels--then the erotic effect is no-brainer.</span><br /><span style="font-family:arial;"></span><br /><span style="font-family:arial;">But words can also turn me on when I'm out in the world, hearing the incidental speech of friends, acquaintances, and strangers. I'm so easy that just the word "sex" often turns me on. (I suppose this would make me the ideal consumer, were it not for the fact that I hardly ever buy anything.)<br /><br />Moreover, the speaker's intention doesn't necessarily have to be sexual for erotically-charged words, concepts, or even figures of speech to titillate me. For example, I am a great admirer of the female behind, and if I hear a woman refer to her ass, even in a nonsexual way, my ears (etc.) will likely perk up. Something as mundane as "I need to get off my ass and do it" or "Fresh-squeezed orange juice, my ass!" can make me think, "Mmm . . . her *ass*."Though it's just an expression, the imagery is sometimes too strong for me to resist (or to want to resist).<br /><br />I also happen to find peeing sexy (yes, there's a hint of that in my fiction now and again). Here too, casual use of the relevant vocabulary can be a turn-on for me. So if a woman describes how funny or exciting something was by saying, metaphorically, "I was wetting my pants," she's guaranteed to have me thinking about the image she's thereby evoked rather than whatever she was really trying to tell me about. (I should emphasize that I do realize actual loss of control like that would, in most circumstances, not be sexy or pleasant; what I'm responding to erotically is the choice of words when the speaker is *not* talking literally.)<br /><br />I don't think I've ever actually heard a woman exclaim "Fuck me!" as a nonsexual expletive, though I know from the print world that people sometimes do so. If I ever encounter that in real life, I'm sure that a movie will immediately begin rolling in my mind.<br /><br /><br /></span><span style="font-family:arial;"><strong></strong></span><br /><span style="font-family:arial;font-size:130%;"><strong>Rachel Green</strong></span><br /></span><span style="font-family:arial;">Rachel's <a href="http://www.leatherdyke.co.uk/">website</a><br /><span style="font-family:Arial;color:#333333;"></span></span><br /><span style="font-family:arial;"><span style="font-family:Arial;color:#333333;">My cheek is pressed against fur. Mink, rabbit, <span class="GramE">ermine - </span>it doesn't matter; it's the texture of the fur against my flesh that counts. I don't care that it's not PC. My vegetarian, waste separation, plastic recycling life has nothing to do with my bare-breasted bondage sexuality.<br /><br />This does.<br /><br />This is sex. This is hot, sweaty bodies writhing naked on a pile of antique coats thrown carelessly on the bed. I need this. This is my relief, my refuge from the daily mundane.<br /><br />I said we were writhing. That's not strictly true. She was <span class="GramE">writhing, </span>I was pretty much staying in one position. The ropes and leather made sure of that.<br /><br />Maybe it's a hang up from a childhood of forced Catholicism. I can't relax into it unless I have the freedom of bondage. "<em><span style="font-family:Arial;">It's not my fault. I can't help it.</span></em>" It's an illusion of course. I asked for this... begged for this...but in the guilt-expunging bondage I can pretend. "<em><span style="font-family:Arial;">I'm a good girl really</span></em>."<br /><br />My arms are bound in a sleeve behind my back, my ankles to the bed posts with my soles flat against the tailboard. She touches me, sending a shiver through my body and a flicker of the wave on the edge of consciousness. The wave will build if she continues, reaching a crescendo that will leave me sobbing and wet and replete and grateful and, probably, sore.<br /><br />It doesn't matter. I can feel the waves lapping against the shore of my orgasm. Muscles tense. She knows I'm close because my legs become taut as bow strings; toes pressed against the tailboard and my pelvis lifted into the air as her thumbs dig into me. In. In. In. Her palm beats against my mound. My muscles shake with the ninth wave and I sob...<span style="font-family:Arial;"><em>please... </em>t</span>hrough the gag.<br /><br />As the beach is washed away by the tsunami I collapse onto the fur. <span class="GramE">Soft fur.</span><br /><br />It doesn't matter what kind.</span><span style="font-family:'Trebuchet MS';color:#333333;"><br /><br /><br /></span><strong><span style="font-family:Arial;font-size:130%;color:#333333;">Bobby Michaels</span></strong><span style="font-family:'Trebuchet MS';color:#333333;"><br /></span><span style="font-family:Arial;color:#333333;">Bobby's <a href="http://www.bobbymichaelswriter.com/"><b>website</b></a></span><span style="font-family:'Trebuchet MS';color:#333333;"><br /><br /></span><span class="GramE"><em><span style="font-family:Arial;color:#333333;">What</span></em></span><em><span style="font-family:Arial;color:#333333;"> Turns You On?</span></em><i><span style="font-family:Arial;color:#333333;"><br /><br /></span></i><span style="font-family:Arial;color:#333333;">First of all, a man who is just who he is, who is comfortable in his own skin, <span class="GramE">who</span> doesn't "put on airs" or try to impress anyone. A man who exudes the confidence that says, "I know who I am and I<br />know what I want." <span class="GramE">A man confident enough to lay in my arms, seeking comfort just as I do in his.</span><br /><br />The first physical thing I notice is his eyes. The eyes tell you everything. Cruel, cunning, gentle, kind - it's all there to read. I love the looks that come from those eyes: The almost pleading look when he's about to cum; the shy but proud look when he shows you his most prized possession - his hard cock - for the first time; <span class="GramE">The</span> commanding, dominating look when he wants sexual relief - now! Most of all, the overpowering look when you see love and desire for you in them.<br /><br /><span class="GramE">His deep voice, especially with a soft southern or southwestern accent.</span><br /><br />His gentle stroking of my head and hair as I worship his cock with my lips, tongue and mouth. <span class="GramE">His hands grasping my head, not so gently, as he reaches orgasm.</span> The deep groans of intense pleasure when I do something that particularly pleases him. <span class="GramE">His teeth, gently (or not so gently) nibbling from the back of my neck and down the back of my arm or biting all over the cheeks of my butt.</span> <span class="GramE">His mouth, sucking hard on my tits.</span> <span class="GramE">His tongue burying itself in my hole or mine in his.</span><br /><br />Him fucking me, hard, deep and long, grabbing my shoulders for leverage as he uses me. His deep voice saying dirty, sexy, nasty things while he fucks me, while I suck his cock, while I eat his ass.<br /><br /><span class="GramE">Him taking a long, hot piss all over me.</span> <span class="GramE">And letting me do the same to him.</span><br /><br />Above all, his scent - at his neck, in his pits, his groin, his balls and his ass. The rich raw scent of a sweaty man. His personal body scent. When I lie in his bed alone, I wrap myself in his sheets and push my face into his pillow to be surrounded by it.<br /><br /><em><span style="font-family:Arial;">What Turns You Off?</span></em><i><br /></i><br />As much as I love a man's scent, too much of a good thing is bad - no going a week without a shower. The worst scent of all, however, is bad breath - the kind that can knock a buzzard off a shit wagon.<br /><br /><span class="GramE">Arrogance.</span> Confidence is a turn on but arrogance is a deal breaker.<br /><br /><span class="GramE">Flowery, overblown compliments.</span> <span class="GramE">Just say, "Fuck!</span> You suck dick <span class="GramE">good</span>!"<br /><br /><span class="GramE">Effeminacy in a man, except for small, slender males between eighteen and twenty-five.</span><br /><br /><em><span style="font-family:Arial;">Summation</span></em><i><br /><br /></i>I didn't mention his eye color, hair color, body type, hairy or smooth, muscular or not, or the size of his cock. These are meaningless to me. The real "turn on" is the man himself. The real "turn off" is the man himself.</span><span style="font-family:'Trebuchet MS';color:#333333;"><br /><br /><br /></span></span><span style="font-family:arial;"><span style="font-family:'Trebuchet MS';color:#333333;"></span><span class="SpellE"><strong><span style="font-family:Arial;color:#333333;"></span></strong></span><p class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-size:130%;"><span class="SpellE"><strong><span style="font-family:Arial;color:#333333;">Brenna</span></strong></span><strong><span style="font-family:Arial;color:#333333;"> Lyons</span></strong></span><span style="font-family:'Trebuchet MS';font-size:130%;color:#333333;"><br /></span><span class="SpellE"><span style="font-family:Arial;color:#333333;">Brenna's</span></span><span style="font-family:Arial;color:#333333;"> <a href="http://www.brennalyons.com/"><b>website</b></a></span><span style="font-family:'Trebuchet MS';color:#333333;"> </span></p><p class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family:'Trebuchet MS';color:#333333;"><span style="font-family:arial;">What turns me on? Eye contact is important; the eyes are the windows to the soul, and as long as your eyes are locked, you know you have his undivided attention. Deep kisses. They can be slow kisses or involved ones, but deep is a must. Skin to skin touching. There's nothing quite like getting really involved, mind and body. If we're both immersed, it's nearly a given that I'm going to have a great time. Being experimental is fun, and I'm all for a little adventure,but neither is as important as that simple connection.</span></span></p><p class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family:'Trebuchet MS';color:#333333;"><span style="font-family:arial;">What turns me off? I'm not a fan of pain. That's first and foremost. If I get hurt during sex, it's nearly a given that my arousal is going to end right there. By that, I don't mean any pain, since I get off on the occasional love bite, nips at the earlobe, the pull of restraints and such. What I absolutely do not get off on is real pain. I'm not the kind to enjoy lashing or spanking. Sorry. Had enough of the real thing, in my life, so I don't want to incorporate it into my sex life.</span></span></p><p class="MsoNormal"><span style="font-family:'Trebuchet MS';color:#333333;"><span style="font-family:arial;">Since I like us to be on the same page and engaged in each other, if my husband is out of sorts, it's going to kill the mood for me. If something's not working, I'd rather just move on to something else and not have him upset about it. To paraphrase Wanda Sykes, "Men get off easily. Sometimes women get halfway in and realize it's just not going to happen for them tonight." Women have to be there mentally/emotionally, as well as physically. That's nothing for a man to get irritated about. Just accept that she's giving you a good time and take it gracefully. A woman does not have to orgasm at every sexual encounter.</span></span></p><p class="MsoNormal"><span style="color:#333333;"></span></p><span style="font-family:'Trebuchet MS';color:#333333;"><span style="font-family:arial;"></span></span></span><p><span style="font-family:arial;"><span style="font-family:Arial;color:#333333;"></span></span></p><p><span style="font-family:arial;"><span style="font-family:Arial;color:#333333;"><strong></strong></span></span> </p><p><span style="font-family:arial;"><span style="font-family:Arial;font-size:130%;color:#333333;"><strong>Bryn Colvin</strong></span><span style="font-family:'Trebuchet MS';color:#333333;"><br /></span><span style="font-family:Arial;color:#333333;">Bryn's <a href="http://bryncolvin.mysite.orange.co.uk/"><b>website</b></a></span><span style="font-family:'Trebuchet MS';color:#333333;"><a href="http://bryncolvin.mysite.orange.co.uk/"><b> </b></a></span></span></p><p><span style="font-family:arial;"><span style="font-family:'Trebuchet MS';color:#333333;"><span style="font-family:arial;">I've been accused of being an ice queen by people who see my surfaces but do not know me well. I am not immediately physically responsive. Bodily arousal doesn't happen for me in a conventional way. Then, I'm not interested in the quick kicks and releases of purely physical interaction. Perhaps if I was, it would work for me. I burn slowly, but very hot and very fierce, given the right circumstances. For those who can turn me on, I am a wild and generous lover.</span></span></span></p><p><span style="font-family:arial;"><span style="font-family:'Trebuchet MS';color:#333333;"><span style="font-family:arial;">Arousal begins in the mind for me, and in the ever shifting world of my emotions. I can remain utterly unmoved by physical contact if my head and heart aren't engaged. In fact, the idea of anything sexual without that mental and emotional action turns me off completely. Hot sex is only ever scorching for me if my intellect and feelings have been thoroughly stimulated first. Don't even think about touching me if you don't know how to melt me with words, seduce me with skills, passions or actions that do not pertain directly to my body.</span></span></span></p><p><span style="font-family:arial;"><span style="font-family:'Trebuchet MS';color:#333333;"><span style="font-family:arial;">What raises my pulse is contact with other people. By this I do not mean anything slight or superficial. It has to be deep and profoundly meaningful, bringing me in so close I almost know what the other person is thinking. Often it takes me years to forge this kind of relationship, but it's worth waiting for. Intense interactions, brought about through shared creativity, ritual, music, walking, dancing, - there are many possibilities. Make me laugh, or cry, or really think and you're in with a chance of bedding me.</span></span></span></p><p><span style="font-family:arial;"><span style="font-family:'Trebuchet MS';color:#333333;"><span style="font-family:arial;">The other thing that fires my imagination (and therefore my desires) is trust. I'm fascinated by power exchange scenarios, but not by traditional Dominant/submissive roles. Having my life entirely in someone else's hands arouses me. Equally, taking control for someone else is a powerful aphrodisiac. It doesn't have to be an overtly sexual situation either. Play fighting turns me on, especially with swords. To do that safely but still have it be exciting takes a lot of trust and mutual knowledge. It also requires the participants to really focus in on each other.</span></span></span></p><p><span style="font-family:arial;"><span style="font-family:'Trebuchet MS';color:#333333;"><span style="font-family:arial;">Turn offs for me involve sex with no mental or emotional fireworks. Consequently most porn is a non-starter. I've had some strange propositions in my time - offers to buy my used underwear, to participate in threesomes, to urinate on people - which I hurried away from because it was just about the sex. I'm the same with what I read. If it sounds like 'insert body part A into orifice B' I'm out of there. There are plenty of other unconventional things I've enthusiastically agreed to because they've been driven by passion. I can get off on all kinds of kink and depravity so long as it has soul and take considerable sexual pleasure from emotive but non-physical exchanges. Apathy leaves me cold but I respond in kind to true passion.<br /><br /><br /></span></span><span style="font-family:Arial;color:#333333;"><strong><span style="font-family:Arial;"></span></strong></span></span></p><p><span style="font-family:arial;"><span style="font-family:Arial;color:#333333;"><span style="font-size:130%;"><strong><span style="font-family:Arial;">Jacqueline Applebee</span></strong><br /></span>Jacqueline's <a href="http://www.writing-in-shadows.co.uk/">website<br /></a><br /><span style="font-family:arial;">Arrogance is a huge turn-off for me. When the possession of power makes people treat others disrespectfully, I just shrink away. The stereotype of a wealthy businessman or woman, ordering their minions about as if they were nothing, makes me want to run in the opposite direction. Money may impress me, but it has never, ever turned me on. So with that said, I find that dignity, and a sense of nobility is a big turn on for me. People don't have to be high-born, or well-connected, but if they know how to be gallant, and want to treat me like a goddess, it just does something to me, and I melt into a gooey mess.<br /><br />The spoken word is something that can turn me on unexpectedly. A close friend recently read "My love is like a red, red rose" by Robbie Burns, whilst we spoke on the phone. We had previously been talking about everyday matters, when he suddenly broke into a Scottish accent, and read that beautiful poem to me. I found my mouth going slack, and all coherent thoughts simply left my mind. I was a goner.<br /><br />On the physical side, I find eyes incredibly seductive. A shy gaze can turn me on, like flicking a switch. When someone looks at me, as if they haven't eaten for three days, and I'm a big sticky chocolate cake, I want to drag them off and ravage them. Intense desirous looks from someone across the room, makes me want to sink to my knees, and open wide...<br /><br /><br /></span></span></span></p><p><span style="font-family:arial;"><span style="font-family:Arial;color:#333333;"><span style="font-size:130%;"><strong>Gwen Masters</strong><br /></span>Gwen's <a href="http://www.gwenmasters.blogspot.com/"><span class="SpellE"><b>blog</b></span></a><br /><br />It started out with the guy in high school, the one with the dark hair that was long enough to fall over his dark eyes, the biceps that were too big to be contained by the sleeves of his t-shirt, and the torch-red <span class="SpellE">Vette</span> in the parking lot. He was gorgeous, the perfect bad-boy, almost unattainable.<br /><br />I didn't care. I wasn't in love with him. I was in love with his car.<br /><br />My first lustful thoughts all involved horsepower. A man who could handle a big-ass truck was sexier than anything else. I loved the sleek little sports cars, but they were nothing compared to that big farm trucks, the ones with the tall tires, the dirty beds, and the bench seat big enough for two...even if those two bodies were horizontal and generating some horsepower of their own.<br /><br />When I turned twenty or so and discovered Nashville, those guitar slingers were what got under my skin. I chose carefully -- they had to not only know how to handle the axe, they had to have the attitude to match. There was nothing like taking the show behind the scenes, fucking him until daybreak, <span class="GramE">then</span> listening to him compose another song -- the physical meeting the spiritual.<br /><br />Those early experiences taught me that my big turn-<span class="SpellE">ons</span> aren't necessarily bedroom techniques, toys that make me drool, or even those muscles that make me take a second glance. It's all about the attitude. Show me a man with enough confidence to be called cocky, a love of experimentation, <span class="GramE">an openness</span> about what he likes, a creativity that keeps things interesting, and I'll show you my intense appreciation.<br /><br />What turns me off? Again, it comes down to everything that matters before we hit the sheets. A lack of responsibility, a boatload of lies, <span class="GramE">a</span> dismissive attitude -- all of these things will make me<br />ignore even the most gorgeous man on the planet. If there's nothing of integrity inside him, I certainly don't want him inside me -- in any way.<br /><br />Once we do get into the bedroom, the turn-<span class="SpellE">ons</span> are endless. If I already want everything that makes up who he is inside, then his body is going to become an addictive playground, and nothing is off-limits. With a man I respected and trusted, I learned to love leather and ropes. I learned the thrill of a single rose petal, the shiver value of a whispered endearment, and on the flip-side, the delight of a harsh order or a good, hard spank against my thigh. I learned not to be turned off by anything, but to embrace everything as a possibility.<br /><br />That kind of sensual freedom comes from trust, and I suppose that is the biggest turn-on of anything else I've explored in my lifetime: Absolute trust. Trust is the one turn-on that makes all the other turn-<span class="SpellE">ons</span> possible.<br /><br /><br /><br /><span style="font-size:130%;"><strong><span style="font-family:Arial;">Beth <span class="SpellE">Wylde</span></span></strong><br /></span>Beth's <a href="http://beth-wylde.tripod.com/"><span class="GramE"><b>website</b></span></a><span class="GramE"><br /><br />...flesh</span> on flesh...heavy breathing...hands reaching...muscles clenching...backs arched...bodies straining. The scents of sweat and sex filling the air as two consensual adults strive to reach the ultimate goal. Climax!<br /><br />Nothing gets me hotter than a well written sex scene. Some people prefer the visual stimulation that an adult movie can provide but for me the biggest thing I need to have stimulated is my mind. The use of sensual language to describe a scene of absolute carnal abandon can get me heated up faster than a good round of lengthy foreplay ever could.<br /><br /><span class="GramE">Soft and sensual or hot and heavy.</span> Whether it's a girl's first time or a couple's fiftieth, a gentle introduction to intercourse or some seriously kinky BDSM. No matter the situation or the gender. I like it all if it's done right.<br /><br />The same goes for when I'm writing a love scene. It has to keep the story moving and add something to the overall plot. Sexual tension is good too. Sometimes I enjoy it more if I've had to wait for it.<br /><br />As for my turn offs, once again it's the written word. If it's distasteful to me you won't find it in one of my books. I write what I like. Funny nicknames or overly technical language can turn me from hot to cold in seconds flat. I'm not looking to read a medical dictionary or sappy dialogue where the author is terrified to call a cock a cock. I need a writer willing to push the envelope. One that can use believable imagery and prose to pull me into the moment until not only the character is on the verge of coming but I am too.</span></span></p><p><span style="font-family:Arial;color:#333333;"></span> </p><p><span style="font-family:arial;"></span></p><p><span style="font-family:arial;"><strong><span style="font-family:Arial;color:#333333;"></span></strong></span></p><p><span style="font-family:arial;"><strong><span style="font-family:Arial;color:#333333;"></span></strong></span></p><p><span style="font-family:arial;"><strong><span style="font-family:Arial;color:#333333;"><span style="font-size:130%;">MJ <span class="SpellE">Williamz</span></span></span></strong><span style="font-family:Arial;color:#333333;"><span style="font-size:130%;"><br /></span><span class="SpellE">MJ's</span> <a href="http://www.myspace.com/mjwilliamz"><span class="SpellE"><b>MySpace</b></span></a><br /><br />There <span class="GramE">are</span> so many things about women that turn me on. To me, every inch of the female form is arousing. There is no such thing as a physically unattractive woman. So then, what turns me on about the women I'm intimate with?<br /><br />Confidence without arrogance. I love confidence. I abhor arrogance. I respect, admire, and am drawn to women who are comfortable in their own skin. A woman who knows what she wants and isn't afraid to go after it makes the best bed partner. If she knows what pleases her and lets me know, the encounter is better for both of us.<br /><br /><span class="GramE">How she tells me doesn't matter.</span><br /><br />"Oh, God, MJ, a little to the left, please," whispered huskily will not only get me to move to that perfect spot, she will also find that I will continue with a renewed fervency.<br /><br />A shifting, however slight, of her body so I'm where she needs me will make my juices flow as hard as hers. The feel of her hand on the back of my head directing me will force me to straddle her leg while I continue, pressing myself into her.<br /><br />All three at once will likely bring me to an earth-shattering climax with her.<br /><br />Physical attributes that can ignite my desire are eyes and lips. Eyes truly are the windows to the soul. They show so much about a woman and can captivate me at first glance.<br /><br />The smoldering look that sears my soul, telling me now's the time and I'd better not wait, is one of my favorite stimulants. I'm even aroused by that cold stare that attempts to convey to me that I don't stand a chance. That look is both arousing and challenging since I've never been one to take no for an answer. The eyelids fluttering, half open is my favorite by far.<br /><br />Of course, to see those eyelids flutter as I look up from between her legs spurs my lust every time.<br /><br />This brings us to her lips. A full set of firm lips makes a woman impossible to refuse. A coy smile to tease me will ensure she has my full attention. If she bites her lower lip, she'll bring me to my knees. A nice, firm, confident kiss will melt me.<br /><br />When these qualities are combined, I'm putty in her hand. A confident woman who looks at me, eyes smoldering, lower lip slightly obscured by her top teeth, can just turn and walk away without a word. She should have no doubt that I will be following close behind.<br /><br /></p></span></span><strong><span style="font-family:Arial;"></span></strong><p><span style="font-family:arial;"><span style="font-family:Arial;color:#333333;"><strong><span style="font-family:Arial;"></span></strong></span></span> </p><p><span style="font-family:arial;"><span style="font-family:Arial;color:#333333;"><span style="font-size:130%;"><strong><span style="font-family:Arial;">Donna George Storey</span></strong><br /></span>Donna's <a href="http://www.donnageorgestorey.com/"><b>website</b></a><br /><br /><br /><br /></span><span style="font-family:'Trebuchet MS';color:#333333;"><span style="font-family:arial;">The biggest turn-on for me is passion. When a person is passionate about something, that energy and focus usually translates into an easy confidence and mastery that is extremely attractive. This could be a passion for writing, music or even computer programming. Of course the most exciting thing is if this person's passion is focused on me! I find it--strangely?--erotic to see a skilled editor at work, excavating the true beginning of the story, the true ending, slashing adverbs and teasing out connections lying buried in the first draft. When a lover brings this total dedication to bed-his hands, tongue and cock pleasuring me with knowing skill, his whispered words weaving fantasies that seduce my imagination--nothing in this world is sexier.</span></span></span></p><p><span style="font-family:arial;"><span style="font-family:'Trebuchet MS';color:#333333;"><span style="font-family:arial;">While I'm confessing, I might as well mention my secret garden-variety turn-on: fresh fruits and vegetables at peak season. My pulse quickens and my breath comes faster when I stroll through a farmer's market and treat my senses to the plump, blushing apples, the wine-scented, golden-skinned Asian pears, the entrancingly smooth, maroon-and-white marbled skin of a Listada eggplant. I adore sniffing melons to tease out the hints of tropical perfume in their dimpled stem end. Better still is when the first tiny spoonful of its sweet flesh ripe proves I've chosen well.</span></span></span></p><p><span style="font-family:arial;"><span style="font-family:'Trebuchet MS';color:#333333;"><span style="font-family:arial;">When it comes to encounters with human beings, I love hands. Nice, solid-looking, thick-fingered male hands. Apparently some guys are concerned about penis size. For me, unless it's too tiny to feel or too huge, which has actually been more of a problem because it makes walking painful for a few days, the penis is so much less important than hands with sensitivity and stamina. Hand action, the way he uses them, will make the difference between lame sex and great sex. I find watching a man typing at a keyboard and clicking a mouse very suggestive! I also like necks and shoulders. Deep, warm eyes and and deep, warm laughter. For women, I get wiggly-kneed over shapely legs and asses, especially in tight-fitting black pants or mini-skirts with boots. I like boots.</span></span></span></p><p><span style="font-family:arial;"><span style="font-family:'Trebuchet MS';color:#333333;"><span style="font-family:arial;">Turn-offs? </span></span></span></p><p><span style="font-family:arial;"><span style="font-family:'Trebuchet MS';color:#333333;"><span style="font-family:arial;">People who let other people's opinions control what they do and think. </span></span></span><span style="font-family:arial;"><span style="font-family:'Trebuchet MS';color:#333333;"><span style="font-family:arial;">Conforming to peer pressure is for high school.</span></span></span></p><p><span style="font-family:arial;"><span style="font-family:'Trebuchet MS';color:#333333;"><span style="font-family:arial;">Most male models and actors who are supposed to define good-looking in our media-saturated culture. I just find their faces incredibly bland to the point of revulsion. I like the process of discovering what makes a person uniquely interesting and sexy for myself. I don't need Vogue to do it for me.</span></span></span></p><p><span style="font-family:arial;"><span style="font-family:'Trebuchet MS';color:#333333;"><span style="font-family:arial;">Lovers who treat my body like a machine.</span></span></span></p><p><span style="font-family:arial;"><span style="font-family:'Trebuchet MS';color:#333333;"><span style="font-family:arial;">Old guys who lecture ME about Japan or writing once they find out what I do, especially when they aren't writers and they learned all they know about Japan from articles in Newsweek. Really knowing what you're doing is sexy. Pretending you do when you don't is not. </span></span></span></p><p><span style="font-family:arial;"><span style="font-family:'Trebuchet MS';color:#333333;"><br /> </p></span></span><strong><span style="font-family:Arial;color:#333333;"></span></strong><p><span style="font-family:arial;"><strong><span style="font-family:Arial;color:#333333;"></span></strong></span></p><p><span style="font-family:arial;"><strong><span style="font-family:Arial;color:#333333;"></span></strong></span></p><p><span style="font-family:arial;"><strong><span style="font-family:Arial;color:#333333;"></span></strong></span></p><p><span style="font-family:arial;"><strong><span style="font-family:Arial;font-size:130%;color:#333333;">Jean Roberta</span></strong><span style="font-family:Arial;color:#333333;"><span style="font-size:130%;"><br /></span>Jean's <a href="http://www.jeanroberta.com/"><b>website</b></a><br /><br />I might sound like a lecturing feminist from the 1970s, but this is what turns me on. I like mutual interest and respect between characters in the erotica I read, and I try to include it in the stories I write - unless I am deliberately describing a Bad Fuck in order to contrast it with something better.<br /><br />Mutual respect is actually easy to include in Dominant/submissive scenarios. Consider the real implications of an Interrogation Scene in which the Tough Cop or Father/Mother Confessor demands the whole truth from the suspect or prisoner. The real purpose of that scene is to find out what the bottom or sub really wants so as to torment hir (him/her) with it! Threats like "If you don't beg for it, I won't touch you" are an extreme way of asking for consent. If there's no consent, the logical answer would be "See ya later, alligator." (But of course, in truly erotic writing there's always consent and encouragement – from the author to the reader and vice versa as well as between characters.)</span></span></p><p><span style="font-family:arial;"><span style="font-family:Arial;color:#333333;">From the time I began reading Pat Califia's queer, whimsically-funny BDSM erotica in the early 1980s, I fell in love with the paradox of polarized roles and over-the-top drama on the surface, and deep mutual curiosity and an equal desire to please underneath. A message of mutual interest, desire and even love seems especially convincing to me if both/all the characters were born into the same gender and brought up in similar neighborhoods. In this case, unequal roles seem freely chosen.<br /><br />I am turned off by sexual cliches, stereotyped characters and a lack of convincing consent, and all these things seem related. I can enjoy M/f erotica, but a writer who describes an Alpha Male sweeping a pouty woman off her feet or literally tying her down needs to work harder than a writer of queer/pansexual fantasies to convince me that this is all good fun, and based on honest lust from all sides.<br /><br />Not only cartoon Men from Mars and Women from Venus but racist stereotypes <span class="SpellE">squick</span> me to the point where I can't go on reading. Lately, I've run across a parade of fictional Asian dragon ladies who sexually torment helpless straight white men so that they (the bitch-goddesses) can go on<br />running the world. <span class="SpellE"><span class="GramE">Gahh</span></span><span class="GramE">.</span><br /><br />For better or worse, I can't read any sex fantasy simply as an "escape" from the frustrations of real life. Writing about sex, like writing about anything else, always has a viewpoint, a message and an agenda. I can't get off on the message that straight white men are an endangered species who are entitled to put everyone else back in their traditional place, or that certain people are just naturally more worthy of good sex (and every other desirable thing) than others. I'd rather escape from the monotony of stereotypes into the juicier complexity of something that more closely resembles the real world.<br /><br /><br /><br /><span style="font-size:130%;"><strong><span style="font-family:Arial;">Day</span></strong><br /></span>Day's <a href="http://www.myspace.com/day38"><span class="SpellE"><b>MySpace</b></span></a> </span></span></p><p><span style="font-family:arial;"><span style="font-family:Arial;color:#333333;"></span></span></p><p><span style="font-family:arial;"><span style="font-family:Arial;color:#333333;">One thing that I know about myself is that, "I like what I like and I want what I want when it comes to the enjoyment of sex." Nothing turns me off more than a man assuming that he knows what I want and what feels good to me, or what women in general want based on past sexual experiences. As we all have probably had at least once in our life time, I knowingly engaged in a one night stand with a guy that I will call Mike. Mike was sexy as hell in physical features, but arrogant beyond what would be considered normal as far as arrogance goes.</span></span></p><p><span style="font-family:arial;"><span style="font-family:Arial;color:#333333;">All week Mike called giving me little titillations of what was to come. I was excited, as well as horny and was ready for what I knew was going to be the best sex I had encountered for some time since I was just three months out of a very loving and sexually fulfilled relationship. Mike showed up, the atmosphere was sexy, and I was ready to seduce and be seduced. Mike looked and smelled like the Adonis that I had always thought him to be. It was first hard for me to even see sexing this guy since he was eight years my junior not to mention he was my best friend's little brother, however tonight being my junior or the fact that he was my friend's brother had no bearing on what I wanted and that was hot, sweaty, orgasmic, mind blowing sex. Everything was perfect! Then it happened. After undressing me, Mike went for it. Pushed me back on the bed, put one arm under my leg, raised it and entered me and went to pumping. "What the fuck," I thought. Being the person that I am did not stop him. When he came I got up, put on my clothes and asked him to leave. He seemed surprised and asked what the problem was. I asked him what the fuck was that and he stated, "I just figured you were the kind of woman that just wanted to get right into the sex." It took me days before I could actually calm down enough to tell this young brother that he had a lot to learn about women and that he should not base his successful experiences to come on the women he had been with in the past. After a month we tried it again after talking extensively and needless to say he got it just right. DAMN RIGHT!</span></span></p><p><span style="font-family:arial;"><span style="font-family:Arial;color:#333333;">What turns me on the most is a man or a woman who is not selfish and who is open to listen and try different things for the heightened sexual pleasures of both parties. One who takes the time to find out what makes ME feel good. If a person does that, he or she can have my goodies all day long.</p></span></span><p><br /><br /><span style="font-size:130%;"><strong><span style="font-family:Arial;">Winnie Jerome</span></strong><br /></span><span style="font-family:arial;">Winnie's </span><a href="http://winnie-jerome.livejournal.com/"><span class="SpellE" style="font-family:arial;"><b>blog</b></span></a><span style="font-family:arial;"> </span></p><p><span style="font-family:arial;">I have a weakness for bondage. I think I developed a taste for it after reading the WWII era Wonder Woman comics. I know, it sounds a little unusual, but I used to spend a lot of time reading them, and one of the things that fascinated me was the Golden Age era.</span></p><p><span style="font-family:arial;">Things were a lot different then. For one thing, the comics code didn't exist. So there was no one to tell the artist that he couldn't depict his lead heroine getting tied up. Repeatedly. And in a lot of different positions: hands behind the back, hog-tied, hobbled. Sometimes she was gagged, sometimes she was chained. I found it incredibly sexy. Needless to say, it rapidly became my favorite comic.</span></p><p><span style="font-family:arial;">Another thing I love is dirty talk. Unfortunately, dirty talk is one of those things that can sound goofy if you use the wrong phrasing. But if it's done well, it sets my imagination soaring, and it just makes sex that much better.</span></p><p><span style="font-family:arial;">I also have a voyeuristic streak, which is also why I love watching two men having sex. Really really love it. If I see two men getting hot and heavy, I have a reaction very similar to a Tex Avery cartoon -- eyeballs bugging out, heart thumping out of my chest, tongue dragging on the ground... Add in the other turn-ons I've listed to the mix and I'm a very happy camper.</span></p><span style="color:#333333;"><p><span style="font-family:arial;">Now that I've talked about my turn-ons, I should talk about my turn-offs. One thing that never appealed to me was playing with candle wax. Which is funny, because getting my eyebrows waxed doesn't freak me out. I guess my dislike has to do with the fact that I really hate burns, and there's no way for me to tell if the wax coming from the candle is at a tolerable temperature or a "Oh my God, that hurts!" temperature. And frankly, that sort of pain is not the type I like to receive. Spanking and pinching are great, but not candles. Having sex outdoors is another turn-off. I'm an urban girl -- if you mention camping, my first reaction will be to wrinkle my nose and go inside to enjoy my creature comforts. Between the dirt or grass getting into places it shouldn't, shivering because it's cold outside, and the bugs; being one with nature gets a big thumbs down from me.<br /><br /></span></span></p><br /><span style="font-family:arial;"><span style="font-size:130%;"><strong>Jolie du Pre</strong><br /></span>Jolie's <a href="http://www.myspace.com/joliedupre">MySpace</a><br /><br />I'm turned on by the inappropriate, the unconventional and the untidy. The business executive who uncovers his tattooed arms and spikes his hair after he leaves the office. The black woman who stuffs her big ass in a pair of tight jeans and walks proudly down the street. The middle aged woman who doesn't cover her cleavage. The young girl in a thrift store creation when all the other girls are wearing Hollister. The young black man in Ralph Lauren when the rest of them are wearing Phat Farm and Sean John.<br /><br />Angelina Jolie may be hot, but I'd rather sleep with Queen Latifah. Brad Pitt is clean and pretty, but give me the alcoholic Jonathan Rhys Meyers. Monet leaves me dry. Pollock gets me wet.<br /><br />What is her personality like? Can she make me laugh? Is her brain the size of Jupiter? Does she look me in the eyes when she talks to me? Or is she just a perfect size 1 who talks about dieting and Oprah?<br /><br />He's tall and good looking? That's nice, but what else? Does he like books? Music? Is he sensitive? Or is he just a jock with a remote in one hand and a beer in the other?<br /><br /><br />Graphic - </span><a href="http://www.glitter-graphics.com/"><span style="font-family:arial;">Glitter Graphics </span></a><br /><br /><span style="font-family:arial;">Be on the look out for Series 3 of TRUE EROTIC TALES, where authors offer new essays to a new question.</span><br /><br /><br /><br /></span><div class="blogger-post-footer"><img width='1' height='1' src='https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/tracker/1327573142623321899-7471983564802891784?l=blushingladies.naughtyblog.net%2Findex.html' alt='' /></div>GLBT Promojolie@joliedupre.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1327573142623321899.post-20936699831940050682007-10-14T13:16:00.000-07:002007-10-14T14:40:13.750-07:00Five Questions for a Beauty<a href="http://blushingladies.naughtyblog.net/uploaded_images/calmt-755021.jpg"><img style="FLOAT: left; MARGIN: 0px 10px 10px 0px; CURSOR: hand" alt="" src="http://blushingladies.naughtyblog.net/uploaded_images/calmt-755019.jpg" border="0" /></a><br /><div><a href="http://blushingladies.naughtyblog.net/uploaded_images/TreSart-787353.jpg"></a><span style="font-family:arial;font-size:130%;">Five Questions for a Beauty</span></div><span style="font-family:arial;font-size:130%;"></span><br /><p><span style="font-family:Arial;">TreSart L. Sioux</span></p><p><span style="font-family:Arial;">TreSart's <a href="http://www.angelfire.com/movies/artist/index.html">website</a></span></p><p><span style="font-family:Arial;">I've had the hots for lesbian TreSart, author of lesbian erotica, ever since I saw a photo of her over at the <a href="http://www.erotica-readers.com/ERA/index.htm">Erotica Readers and Writers Association </a>about five years ago. (Those<em> L Word</em> babes? They've got nothing on TreSart.) But not only is TreSart a physical beauty, she is truly one of the kindest writers I have ever met. Plus, I love her style of erotica.</span></p><p><span style="font-family:Arial;"><br /><strong>1. Name a favorite book.<br /></strong><br />Nancy Grace - <em>Objection<br /></em><br /><strong>2. Name a favorite piece of music.<br /></strong><br />Siouxsie and The Banshees - <em>Cascade<br /></em><br /><strong>3. You've been invited to a cocktail party. What do you wear?<br /></strong><br />Pin Striped pants, my Frederick's 8 inch heels and a low cut vest.<br /><br /><strong>4. What do you feel has been your most important writing accomplishment to date?<br /></strong><br />I would say anything I've written is an accomplishment. Takes so long to put together a book.<br /><br /><strong>5. What is your next writing project?<br /><br /></strong>Have two. One I hope to have out by Halloween, or around then. It will be my 5th book of short stories and flashers. The other is to have my first full-length novel. I'll really be proud of myself then!<br /><br />I would also like to eventually create and all lesbian horror erotica. Now, that would be cool!<br /></span></p><p><span style="font-family:Arial;"></span></p><p><span style="font-family:arial;font-size:130%;"></p></span><div class="blogger-post-footer"><img width='1' height='1' src='https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/tracker/1327573142623321899-2093669983194005068?l=blushingladies.naughtyblog.net%2Findex.html' alt='' /></div>GLBT Promojolie@joliedupre.com0tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-1327573142623321899.post-15226771530166701192007-10-06T21:43:00.000-07:002007-10-06T22:54:32.324-07:00Five Questions for a Beauty<a href="http://blushingladies.naughtyblog.net/uploaded_images/MeinMyElement5-771578.JPG"><img style="FLOAT: left; MARGIN: 0px 10px 10px 0px; CURSOR: hand" alt="" src="http://blushingladies.naughtyblog.net/uploaded_images/MeinMyElement5-771574.JPG" border="0" /></a><br /><div align="left"><strong><span style="font-family:Arial;"></span></strong></div><div align="left"><span style="font-family:Arial;"></span></div><div align="left"><span style="font-family:Arial;font-size:180%;">Five Questions for a Beauty</span><br /><br /></div><div><br /></div><div align="left"><span style="font-size:130%;"><strong><span style="font-family:Arial;">Jolene Hui</span><br /></strong></span><span style="font-family:Arial;">Jolene's <a href="http://www.jolenehui.com/">Website</a></span></div><div align="left"><span style="font-family:Arial;"></span></div><div><br /><br /></div><div align="left"><span style="font-family:Arial;">I was introduced to author, model and actress Jolene Hui when I received her submission "Mandy" for <a href="http://joliedupre.com/iridescence.html">Iridescence</a>. Then, when I travelled to Los Angeles to give a reading, I finally got the chance to meet her. Jolene is one of the friendliest authors I know and one of the most beautiful. We hope to co-edit an erotic anthology in the near future.</span></div><div><br /><br /><br /></div><div align="left"></div><div><br /><br /></div><div align="left"><strong><span style="font-family:arial;">1. Name a favorite book. </span><br /><br /></strong></div><div><span style="font-family:arial;">I've been a bookworm since I learned how to read. There are just so many favorites on my list that it's hard to even name one. However,the one that comes to mind and always stands out for me is <em>We Don't Live Here Anymore</em>, by Andre Dubus. It's a book of three novellas that deal with love, partnerships, and infidelity. I am always amazed by the way infidelity tears up relationships. Jealousy is such poison.</span></div><span style="font-family:arial;"></span><br /><div><br /></div><div align="left"><span style="font-family:arial;"><strong>2. Name a favorite piece of music. </strong></span></div><div><br /><span style="font-family:arial;">Oh wow. This is even worse than the book question. I'm going to go with Radiohead's song "Let Down." The song is off of their album OK Computer, which is not actually my favorite Radiohead album as a whole, but it has a couple of my favorite songs on it. I love "Let Down" so much because Thom Yorke's voice sounds so beautiful as he sings about isolation. It brings tears to my eyes every time I hear it. I feel myself breathing with the music; the emotion in the song attacks my being. It's one of the most fantastic pieces of music out there.</span></div><div align="left"><br /><br /><span style="font-family:arial;"><strong>3. You've been invited to a cocktail party. What do you wear?</strong></span></div><div><br /><span style="font-family:arial;">I generally always wear a little black dress to any kind of party. Top it off with heels and black eyeliner and I'm all set! Pretty much no matter what time of year it is or what kind of cocktail party it is, I find that I always feel and look the best in a sexy black dress. And a manicure and pedicure, of course.<br /></span><br /><br /><span style="font-family:arial;"><strong>4. What do you feel has been your most important writing accomplishment to date? </strong></span></div><div><br /><span style="font-family:arial;">The most important writing accomplishment was the first story I had published with Tonto Press. It was called "Bookshelves" and was the first fictional piece I'd had published (outside of my college literary journal). It meant all the difference in my self esteem and pushed me in the right direction writing-wise. Since then I have had so many successes I can't even count them. Even though I had already been writing for years, I look at it as my true starting point.<br /><br /></span></div><div align="left"><span style="font-family:arial;"></span></div><div><span style="font-family:arial;"><strong>5. What is your next writing project?</strong></span><br /><br /><span style="font-family:arial;">I always have my column, Princess Jolene Goes to Hollywood, up at <a href="http://www.thefleshfarm.com/">The Flesh Farm </a> and I'm constantly writing a handful of erotic short stories at the same time. One major thing I've been working on for the past few months is a collection of 50 poems about Los Angeles.They aren't necessarily about the city. Most of them illustrate my life and emotions while in the city. I'm proud of the collection so far and I hope to complete it in the next couple of months. I'm also putting together a collection of my favorite literary and erotic stories that I've written.</span></div><div><br /><br /></div><div align="left"><br /><br /><br /></div><div align="left"><span style="font-family:arial;"></span></div><div><br /><br /><br /><br /></div><div align="left"><span style="font-family:arial;"></span></div><div><br /><br /><br /><br /></div><div align="left"><span style="font-family:arial;"></span></div><div><br /><br /><br /><br /></div><div align="center"><span style="font-family:arial;"></span></div><div><br /><br /><br /><br /></div><div align="center"><span style="font-family:arial;"></span></div><div class="blogger-post-footer"><img width='1' height='1' src='https://blogger.googleusercontent.com/tracker/1327573142623321899-1522677153016670119?l=blushingladies.naughtyblog.net%2Findex.html' alt='' /></div>GLBT Promojolie@joliedupre.com2